How much does race matter?

seduction-ModTeam · 2025-10-05T19:22:32+00:00

This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.

Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work?

As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.

Aggravating_Smoke179 · 2025-10-05T18:08:53+00:00

You already said you're overweight. I would start there tbh.

stateoffutility · 2025-10-05T18:22:13+00:00

I'd say to get laid it matters a bit less but to date seriously your skin color matters. Sorry to say this is no sugarcoating. White women tend to date white men. Why don't you date your own ethnicity or someone similiar? There'll be exceptions everywhere though there are white girls that date black guys and asian guys etc but these are exceptions and you'll have to be pretty thick skinned to ride out the multiple rejections before you find one.

And no being overweight is the worst position to be in. Looking at other overweight dudes is just a shitty idea lol there are millions of overweight white dudes that have never even touched a girl in their life.

cs_throwawayyy · 2025-10-05T18:22:43+00:00

You need to be white washed in the west tbh

G0dZylla · 2025-10-05T19:01:02+00:00

hate me but this is all truth, the holy trinity of looks is race, face and height. your race MATTERS and will influence your results, being white gives you better chances with any woman of any ethcnicity , but not being white isn't the end , if you have a decent face and not extremely short you can still date but it will be harder . for your case though being overweight is the reason you are not getting results , and in 2025 you can not afford to be overweight as a man, lose it all and you will see a huge difference

gimmeadvice_x · 2025-10-05T18:17:14+00:00

Girls who turn you down solely based on your ethnicity aren't worth your time. Remember you are the prize and there's someone out who will return your energy. Focus on your strengths. There's nothing you can do about your ethnicity but a lot you can do about other things that are in your control. Just ignore the noise and walk with self respect and keep working on your goals.

Signed another brown dude in America.

SensitiveBridge7513 · 2025-10-05T18:28:17+00:00

My 5’6 Indian friend bangs a new girl every 2 weeks. But he knows the cards are stacked against him so he puts in an insane amount of effort. Sub 12% bodyfat, jacked, all his dating app pictures are professionally done. Would a 6’4 white guy get away without doing all that? Probably. But you can definitely put in effort to level the playing field just a bit.

Emergency_Bluejay_10 · 2025-10-05T18:10:54+00:00

Doesn’t matter at all with the right person. Same goes for weight.

Justwatchinitallgoby · 2025-10-05T18:11:09+00:00

Find the women that go for men who that go for brown men. They are out there!

My ex had a friend that dates Indian dudes almost exclusively.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-10-05T18:35:16+00:00

You assume white dudes have a different experience? 🤣 Bro, overweight white guys also have to do 50-150 cold approaches to get a date or a hook-up. That's standard.

Fix your weight first. That will increase your chances massively

Kgb725 · 2025-10-05T18:55:45+00:00

As a black man who lives in the south i understand when a woman typically white says she wants a tall dark man with curly hair she wants jack Harlow that it can be a bit frustrating. There will also be other women who will love you even more because you are brown so just keep pushing you'll find something

noturtypicalbt · 2025-10-05T18:20:45+00:00

Not necessarily about race, but more about preference

TheCuriousBread · 2025-10-05T18:31:47+00:00

About 60%

Th1nkingTr0ll · 2025-10-05T18:47:18+00:00

It matters a lot man but just work on yourself

LilSkills · 2025-10-05T18:49:10+00:00

Race, just like any other physical stat, doesn't matter when you have 💸💵🤑

JimiAce09 · 2025-10-05T18:49:40+00:00

A lot. It’s probably second most important under height.

spacemangoes · 2025-10-05T18:51:33+00:00

What’s your height?

pways · 2025-10-05T19:15:37+00:00

It matters a lot unfortunately

But I’ve seen some absolute smoke show Caucasian women with ethnic dudes before so I think it’s just a matter of you having to roll the dice more than a white guy, typically a lot more.

No-Grade-5057 · 2025-10-05T18:10:27+00:00

Muscles and tattoos

srwat · 2025-10-05T18:16:50+00:00

Let's assume just for demonstration purposes if you had a lot of things going against you. The first thing you could change immediately is improvement of your fashion sense such as knowing what to wear and when, as well as figuring out what cologne suits you. That's two small elements that are starting to create a little bit of smoke to start that fire.

The gym will go a long way of course with your clothes fitting better and more clothing styles being able to work effectively, but the gym is a daily long term thing. Start doing it, but don't wait on it.

Leveling up the job you work at to be past "basic" work to at least something that a prospective girlfriend can talk to family/friends about and actually feel excited about goes a long way as well. The more exciting your social side sounds if someone is talking about you to others in the 3rd person, the more attention you will most likely receive.

If you're just looking for short term fun, max body game as well as hot/cold, push/pull for results.

If you're looking for long term, you have to become much more of a complete package which begins with building yourself up day by day as an all-around unit.

AnyCookie9040 · 2025-10-05T19:15:04+00:00

I’m 21 and Latino. I’ve dated three white women, two blondes and one brunette/ have had multiple intimate relationships with others as well. Honestly race doesn’t matter. What really counts is attraction and personality. Sure, you might hear a few jokes now and then or things might feel a little different with their family at first, but if you and the girl have a solid connection and you take the time to win over her family it all works out fine.

Title	How much does race matter?
Author	momma_GOOSE
Upvotes	2
Comments	33
Date	October 5, 2025 6:03 PM UTC (9 months ago)
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