Guy dances up on the girl you're with at a club. What do you do?

nastynickdr · 2015-11-25T13:15:13+00:00

you give zero fucks, because she is not your GF or anything, and you are a quality man with options and abudance mentality, or are you not?

AEther_Flux · 2015-11-25T10:36:10+00:00

Start grinding on him?

OmLaLa · 2015-11-25T14:32:07+00:00

She looks noticeably uncomfortable but doesn't push him away or move away.

She looked uncomfortable as an attempt to keep you placated, as she knows that if she showed enjoyment in being dominated, it would cause tension between you are her later.

She's looking out for your "feelings".

And I say she enjoyed it because she didn't walk away.

If she truly respected you as her dominant male figure, she wouldn't have allowed some random guy to grind up on her.

That said, if she's comfortable getting away with it in front of you, she's even more comfortable behind your back.

That's not to say that she's already weighing her options, although it's highly likely. Once more, she has a high propensity to begin branch swinging at this point in time.

I'd recommend appearing unphased. Not cold, but not addressing it. Be distant but only slightly. You're communicating to her, covertly, that you too might be weighing options. Start dancing on other girls, or better yet, show other women the exact same level of attention that you show her.

That'll drive her crazy and you get to maintain your frame and dominance, all at once.

notmyusualreddit · 2015-11-25T10:28:26+00:00

The fighting comment cracks me up. Who gets in fights with witnesses, cameras, securty, cops, and lawyers everywhere??

Beyond that, you step closer, arm around her and pull her closer while smiling at her enjoying each other. She stays. He leaves.

wehadtosaydickety · 2015-11-25T11:46:49+00:00

It's her choice to grind with him. It's your choice to bring this girl to the club in the first place. I realize my mistake, find another girl, and never make that mistake again.

WillWorkForLTC · 2015-11-25T17:13:56+00:00

She's not yours. If someone did that to my woman I would think it's no big deal as long as she broke off. If she got into it then I still don't blame the bloke since he is just being a guy. If she's "yours" then just set boundaries for her before you go out. If she doesn't follow them then consequence is losing you or losing your attention. Always think like a parent.

[deleted] · 2015-11-25T14:42:29+00:00

I've been in this situation twice. First time I lost the girl as I wasn't aggressive enough in showing intent (I wanted to take her home). She never came back, it was so fucked up but, meh, I was able to get a few numbers that night which turned out to be two great girls I still regularly fuck. Second time (different girl) I didn't make that mistake again, picked her up by her waist and then kissed her. Other dude walked away. She was all over me the entire night and when we got back to my place she was WILD. Way more than when we first hooked up.

TRP teaches to have abundance mentality, to not get butt hurt, and move on should a girl switch focus to someone else or lose interest in you. Sure, and one could argue that asking a girl out with you is showing enough intent.. Or maybe that if she goes off with some other dude the whole night (and I'm not talking about an innocent little dance), she's not worth your time... I think it's important that us men LEARN FROM OUR MISTAKES WITH A TRP MINDSET, remaining emotionally healthy throughout. If you make a "mistake" without TRP mindset, you can't be certain it's not coming from a beta/needy mindset. Sometimes it IS better to walk away. Sometimes, you didn't execute the right attitude or state in your game and you need to analyze it to not do it again. Blah blah, you get the idea.

Moral of the story: Some girls want you to fight for them (or rather show intent), some don't. If you've known this girl for a while you should be able to know her character by now and make the right choice. It's a fun challenge and kind of a game that you can choose to play or not. Being aware that it's a challenge and game makes sure that you're in control and not just taking the easy way out with the whole abundance mentality.

[deleted] · 2015-11-25T15:56:29+00:00

Don't worry about the other guy. Look at this as a great opportunity for you to compliance test her.

Get closer to her on on the dance floor, start dancing near her (but not on her) where she can see you and give her the opportunity to move away from the other guy and dance with you. If she does this, cool. If she doesn't, go find another chick to grind on and take home that night.

RXRob · 2015-11-25T11:23:19+00:00

Let him buy her some drinks. When he goes to the bathroom whisper in her ear that you love her arse in that dress and you're dragging her outside right now to fuck her against a wall.

[deleted] · 2015-11-25T15:05:57+00:00

If she came with you, then it's not your job to make those guys go away, it's hers. If she doesn't though, go game other women in the venue, a little dread goes a long way.

Glennus626 · 2015-11-25T15:08:40+00:00

Don't mate guard, especially if she's not your mate :P

Use the opportunity to grind on other girls or chat other girls up. She will be all over you at some point, but recognize she has the advantage in that situation since there are usually more thirsty guys than thirsty girls in a club.

favours_of_the_moon · 2015-11-25T15:13:10+00:00

Well you weren't "with" her on the floor, so she's fair game for other dudes to pick up on. However since she's sending signals she doesn't want the dude there, I'd go and kind of put her in my personal space.

The other guy should get it that she's not interested, but if he doesn't then it's on you. Of course you have to be sure she's not interested. She could be setting you up for a rapo.

[deleted] · 2015-11-25T18:32:01+00:00

Dance up on him, assert your dominance.

Actually, that's pretty funny. Do that.

Futdashukup · 2015-11-25T19:02:05+00:00

wutever 'appened to an arse - kickin' ?

honeybadgersyo · 2015-11-25T10:12:14+00:00

Spear tackle

clint_bronson · 2015-11-25T11:07:48+00:00

You kill him.

No seriously just grab her by the hand and start dancing with her. It would be worse if she was actually enjoying the grinding.

innergametrumpsall · 2015-11-25T15:31:30+00:00

Not your girlfriend : Agree on grinding on him (AA), or even applauding him (AM).

Your girlfriend : Watch it play out with amusement (AM)

If she takes the dance, demoted to plate. If not, good girl.

Title	Guy dances up on the girl you're with at a club. What do you do?
Author	aptway
Upvotes	22
Comments	36
Date	November 25, 2015 8:20 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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