I’m done, I can’t do it

longblademotor · 2026-03-08T22:36:59+00:00

Buddy no. Women are crazy, but this isn’t the end. It’s a new beginning. You matter and have value.

Virtual-Mixture8381 · 2026-03-08T17:58:43+00:00

I’ve had a destroyed reputation for years now. Probably way worse than you have it. You will learn over time that you do not need friends & eventually how to genuinely be happy on your own. You just need to make sure you face it. Don’t do drugs or drink and let your mind adapt with time. I haven’t had sex since 2022, and only few fingers of buddies left that i don’t even hang out with in person. After my mental health journey and medication, hobbies, goals, gym, and therapeutically: the feeling of stacking up money I’m genuinely happy with what I have. You’d be surprised how fulfilling masturbating can be too if you hone in on enhancing the experience. Loneliness isn’t real, women aren’t shit, there is nothing you can do to be loved by them because they love no one except hopefully their kids. Yes, they do not even love themselves. How they feel about you is not a reflection of who or what you are. If you truly need a reflection of your value from an outside source ask a fellow male what they think. Internalize this and things get a lot easier. Get in as good shape as you can and dress as great as you can and you’ll be brimming with a self validated confidence.

X72-9 · 2026-03-08T11:30:56+00:00

I had to double check your username to make sure I didn't write this and forget. I am in the same fucking boat amigo. hang in there. I am here if you want to talk. play the long game

Ok-Anything-3605 · 2026-03-08T06:33:59+00:00

I asked mine if she wanted to quit drinking in marriage therapy, ‘I don’t know’ was her response. Absolutely unhinged accusations from her too…jealous of our own kids, I was a sex addict because I like physical touch, I didn’t appreciate her career yet every time she had to go away for months I supported it and held down the home front with three kids and my own career. It is a slow painful death for me too. One day it’ll get better. Vent away on this sub or in DM, it’s what I do. Good luck

TheConjugalVisit · 2026-03-08T06:22:40+00:00

As an alcoholic I'm sorry. We have a brain disease that is not seen as kindly as a cancer patient or that of the diabetic. No one understands the disease save, even medical professionals. The only one who understands is another alcoholic.

We are damaged but can be healed, loving, empathic people. We hate ourselves and others think we hate them but it's not true, most of us love others more than ourselves.

I have my MBA and and pursing my PhD in the fall, yet alcohol was my master. It DOES NOT discriminate.

This is why it's imperative to seek them out and build a network of friends. who get it.

Take her to an AA meeting or Alanon. Sit listen let her share or not but I guarantee she will get something from it.

When I have the urge I pick up the phone or get my ass to a meeting..

Ninja_1000_SX · 2026-03-08T06:06:01+00:00

Yep. When mine started I knew I was going to have to eat shit sandwiches for about two years. Unfortunately you to do the same. As awful as it is just resign yourself to the fact that it won’t be easy, quick, or pleasant. Eat the sandwich and say thanks, and keep on moving everyday. This probably isn’t helpful but it’s advice I received and then when things are unpleasant at least I’m not surprised. Hold your head up and make some small level of progress everyday.

Koi_Fish_Mystic · 2026-03-08T06:00:39+00:00

Get therapy quick. Do not believe the stories you tell yourself.

Title	I’m done, I can’t do it
Author	Ill-Nature9716
Upvotes	10
Comments	9
Date	March 8, 2026 5:57 AM UTC (5 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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