So basically, the situation with my ex was complicated.

To be honest, I did learn one thing although I am so glad that I didn’t know it beforehand in order to apply it to her, which is that you don’t know for sure that you don’t want a relationship with someone until you learn enough about them/spend enough time with them.

The thing is, we initially stopped seeing each other because she wanted to define the relationship and I said I didn’t want a relationship and only wanted casual. Allegedly this made her cry (it was over text so I didn’t see her actual reaction).

After about a month I regretted it and missed her and tried to get her back, but she said a bunch of bullshit about how she doesn’t do casual and how I only wanted casual, even though I said I wanted more then.

So she chose to play musical chairs with her ex’s (plural) drumsticks. Finally she hit me up and when I found out about this I thought it was understandable because I thought she was only having sex with them under the premise of a relationship.

One thing that bothered me though was that she wouldn’t tell me where she went on the reintroduction date with her second ex. The part that bothered me was that she would consistently say “we went out… on a date”. It seemed scripted and something seemed off.

One night I had to address the fact that I didn’t believe it was presumed to be a relationship with her ex, since he was moving. I asked for the final time where they went and expressed how much it mattered to me. She wouldn’t answer and also confirmed it was casual with her ex so I broke up with her. (The aversion to casual with me felt that sex with me was conditional whereas unconditional with others).

The thing is, we had already talked about it before and I asked if they went to a show (concert) but at that point I was only asking out of curiosity and didn’t really care that much until she acted so evasive about it.

She texted me later after I first asked and said “oh I was thinking and you were thinking it was (X artist) because of xyz”. I said “I thought it might have actually been Y artist but it doesn’t matter.” and instead of saying no she was like “You’re right it doesn’t matter!!!”. I said “Lol so it was him” and she said “Lmaoooo”. I should’ve known there but I trusted her too much. At some point, either before or after the texts we talked on the phone and she said she had never been to a show with that ex and that she had only seen that artist twice.

Well I just confirmed that that was a lie, because I went back in her highlights and saw she had been to see that artist just 3 months before that lie.

I have no idea why it really matters that she saw that show, as in why she had to hide it, but I am so grateful to know that she is indeed a flat out liar and now I don’t regret anything. I had already caught her in other lies but we had a conversation where she told me truths and so I figured she wouldn’t lie anymore since she seemed genuinely regretful, but she did not come clean about that thing and instead tried to make me seem overly fixated and said I would use it as a “mark to see how low or high you have to go to get what you want”. Well, maybe you should’ve thought about that before giving yourself away to a guy for this shitty concert that seemed so low.

Anyway, I cannot stand liars. I no longer miss her, thank God. I had regretted losing out on the “good” qualities, which were probably also lies, because every girl I’ve seen since hasn’t been right for me like I thought she might’ve been, but I can’t date a liar.