Please Share Your Thoughts

Numerous_Rush5227 · 2026-04-15T22:27:19+00:00

Try a bunch of tasks/interests and stick with the ones which make you excited and/or lost in the sauce. I.e. sports, musical instruments, fixing cars, hiking, Microsoft excel (personally became obsessed after immediately making a 2 year budget), etc. Personally, sheer laziness towards the end of my marriage reminded me how anxious being content. Find your passions

The_Restructured_Man · 2026-04-14T20:54:59+00:00

I'll be honest… I tried therapy and it didn't do much for me. Spent a lot of money to talk about how getting divorced sucked, which I already knew :). Some guys get a lot out of it and I'm not knocking it. It just wasn't the thing that moved the needle for me.

What actually worked was building structure around the chaos and outsourcing mundane tasks. The anxiety I was feeling wasn't some deep psychological mystery… It was the result of running every part of my life solo and manually with no system underneath it. Every morning was a blank page of decisions I didn't have the energy to make.

So I started treating my rebuild the way I treat a business turnaround. Audited every area of my life (career, health, finances, daily routine, mindset) and built a simple operating rhythm: morning routine on autopilot, weekly review to catch problems before they become crises, protocols for communicating with my ex so every text isn't an emotional event (copypaste), outsourcing housekeeping, landscaping, etc.

The anxiety dropped once the structure went up. Most of what I thought was a mental health problem turned out to be an infrastructure problem.

To your point about resources for men… you're 100% right, almost everything out there is either therapy or support groups. Neither one speaks to business guys who think operationally. The best framework I found was one I had to build myself. Treat your life like a system, not a feeling. Audit, plan, execute, review.

For venting… there are subs like this one LOL. And one or two close friends who've been through it. You don't need many. Just the right ones.

nomohydro · 2026-04-14T19:00:55+00:00

I started used using beer then exercise now nature and people. Going camping soon on my land down south for southern food and hospitality. Doesn't hurt southern gals are lookers.

mdh5326 · 2026-04-14T18:07:03+00:00

Generally speaking: therapy, meditation & prayer, going for walks, jiu-jitsu, gym. Talking with friends.

I would read or listen to “Wisdom: Untethered” by Michael Singer.

Ultimately, on the hardest of days, just make it through the day. Tomorrow is a new day.

McDrewby24 · 2026-04-14T17:48:35+00:00

Exercise, healthy lifestyle choices, therapy, journaling, meditation, Chat GPT to make sense of my emotions, healthy friendships, time with family and developing a routine around all of that. All of these things have helped me get through my anxiety and mental health.

ThrowAway2022916 · 2026-04-14T17:41:04+00:00

I’ve had a therapist for more than 10 years. We speak weekly.

I also have a psychiatrist (because going to my PCP for psychiatric meds was a bad idea). I speak with her monthly.

I still have problems with anxiety and depression, but I’m sure it is better than it would be without them.

Title	Please Share Your Thoughts
Author	Adorable_Airport_787
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Date	April 14, 2026 5:35 PM UTC (3 months ago)
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