Officially a 29 year old virgin

vertascend · 2026-04-27T08:04:53+00:00

Follow these rules: -Don’t go out there with high expectations or in desperation ( you will lose before you begin), have a calm grounded demeanor -I’m assuming you want to just lose your virginity and not looking for a relationship; because the places you’re suggesting looking aren’t suitable for relationships; in which case I suggest being in the presence of people with game and learning from them; those settings can sometimes lead to getting laid nonchalantly but at the same time hurts when you’re blocked by another dude in the group… trust me it happens -and if you’re not doing it in hookup settings or dating apps then I suggest riding solo; you need intent… otherwise you will be in the friend-zone, to get with girls you need to know the nature of girls and be with more girls… difficult if you’ve never had a girlfriend.., so you must be open to mistakes and rejection as a learning process -escalation and timing matters, go to fast and you lose her, go too slow and she loses interest… there’s a sweet spot and you need to figure this out through experience - there’s no end all be all answer to your questions and problems, that’s why people say it’s a numbers game…. No is never a never; remember that

becomesharp · 2026-04-27T11:08:23+00:00

20-50 approaches per week, and don't go out trying to get laid or it will backfire due to neediness. Just focus on the reps and the results will come automatically.

abcsofattraction · 2026-04-27T11:20:24+00:00

Happy birthday. Fellow 5’4” guy here, so I know exactly what the short babyface combo feels like going into a room.

The quitting after 1 or 2 approaches is the real problem, not your looks. You’re letting your nervous system decide the night is over before you’ve even warmed up. The first approach is always the hardest, the second is easier, by the fifth you’ve found your rhythm.

Fastest way to build volume with the lowest rejection rate I’ve found: Kickstarter Cheers opener. Make eye contact, smile, raise your glass to mid-chest, say “Cheers.” She cheers back on social autopilot. You introduce yourself, short exchange, move on. One word, zero pressure, repeatable all night.

If fewer than half cheer back, your body language or energy is off, not your height or your face. That’s fixable information.

Do ten of these in a night. Don’t camp on any one interaction, keep moving. The reps are what kills the rejection fear, not confidence you try to summon before you start.

Here’s the full Cheers opener.

Rare-Degree-9596 · 2026-04-27T15:33:32+00:00

Go out, move with the music, make friends.

It works.

Title	Officially a 29 year old virgin
Author	lfg141
Upvotes	12
Comments	4
Date	April 27, 2026 6:28 AM UTC (3 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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