All my problems in my life comes from a woman.

uwotm8_8 · 2026-05-02T11:56:04+00:00

How many more times will you put your hand on the stove and complain about being burnt?

Stop obsessing about some fantasy the culture has fed you about romantic relations and build a life you enjoy.

mrmensplights · 2026-05-02T15:35:36+00:00

You are going through something all men go through.

When we are young we are fed an endless stream of propaganda about gender. That boys are aggressive, oppressive, brutish, dangerous. That girls are more nurturing, more empathic, that they are sweeter or kinder. We are even taught higher principals that women are more pacifist, abhor violence, are hurt emotionally by seeing violence. Media displays an endless litany of the cliche of boys fighting and girls screaming for them to stop. Of boys bullying people while girls nurture. It's like the nursery rhyme, "Little girls are made of sugar and spice and everything nice".

This is all a lie.

As you pointed out: This type of woman literally only exists in books and films. In adolescence many boys dream of the idea of sharing a life with this fiction - and realizing that we were totally lied to is an unfortunate quintessential suffering for all young men. The truth is that no gender corners the market on the human condition. Women are every but as cruel, malicious, base, and vicious as any man. In a fight between men, women are just as likely to be egging on and cheering than in distress and begging for it to stop. Women are just as likely to be bullies as to abhor them.

In our current age there is a special flavor to this. As anti-male sentiment from feminist secular religion permeates our institutions, boys are now actively demonized and intellectualized and girls are automatically validated and encouraged. I remember being taught about testosterone in Grade 3 and how it's one of the reasons I'm bound to be evil and how I have to fight against it's influence. Think about how crazy that is: they had children pegged down to a chemical. The result is that many boys grow up highly introspective and aware of their behavior while girls are never taught to internalize or take accountability. Narcissism, manipulation, lack of accountability, and gaslighting are the result. They were never taught to be introspective, they were never taught to be suspicious of emotions that were always validated, and boys have always been demonized. The result is that - for many women - "to feel it" means "it's real and externally imposed" and obviously, given the nature of men and your proximity it must be your fault. This has always true to an extent - as you said even your own mother is this way - , but our age has amplified all these tendencies in younger women.

You need to abandon this fantasy - this lie - you were taught. You will never find it, and you will never be happy as long as you are chasing something that doesn't exist.

I'm not saying don't play the game, but I'm saying play it knowing the rules and with a full understanding. Everyone has to play the cards they were dealt. Some men choose to walk way. I won't tell you what the shape of a real relationship should be for you. You'll have to discover that for yourself once you've fully processed all this. I would say it starts with putting your needs first. Don't look for a woman to complete you or to give you meaning: If a partner doesn't add value to your life and help you achieve your goals then what is the point?

Kurukuruchan · 2026-05-02T14:09:56+00:00

"Even my mother abused me psychologically"

I say this with the utmost sincerity and sympathy, have you thought about/accessed therapy?

It sounds like you're falling into a pattern of who you are actively seeking as a partner, and then getting burnt over and over again. There are many great women out there who won't be the source of all your problems, but it's likely problems will still be there regardless. I'm not saying all women are good, but maybe there's something inside you that you need to work on/work through?

I say this as someone who has been seeing a psychiatrist for the past 7 months after an 8 year abusive relationship that has taken everything from me. Did she burn everything to the ground? Yes. But I came to understand that she didn't start the fire, she just threw petrol on it; she turned something already inside of me into something much worse.

Wishing you the best of luck, fingers crossed that you can find some peace.

Darth-Hakujou · 2026-05-02T14:14:32+00:00

My life got 1000% better when I prioritized myself. My needs became #1 #2 & #3 and I only support ppl that gaf about MY needs.

Meditate on that.

Any responders??? IDGAF what you have to say.

RevelationSr · 2026-05-02T13:48:26+00:00

You are becoming Red-pilled and leaving The Matrix.

EmptyImagination4 · 2026-05-02T13:37:08+00:00

I've been there too - loosing someone because of politcs. maybe we are at a state of affairs where we all need to express our political views before meeting someone.

about women being problemetic I have to agree mostly:
- in my family the toxicistic come from too women
- in my workplace, I can recall 4 toxic women intercations, but only 3 from men - and that workplace was 80% men ...

csmedo1994 · 2026-05-02T17:25:47+00:00

You need to reframe your title and your entire mindset: All my problems come from how I react to the women in my life. Take responsibility and change your actions towards women. There’s no doubt women have likely played a major detrimental role in men’s lives. Learn to understand woman and respond accordingly. Easy to say, harder to do. Are women manipulative? Yes, across the board to some degree. It’s their nature. Petting an alligator, then complaining about getting bitten is on you, not the alligator.

doyouevennoscope · 2026-05-03T02:23:23+00:00

All my problems in my life comes from a woman.

Well, technically that's true for us all because it was our mothers that pushed up into the world. Thanks a lot, mom.

Jokes aside, there are good women out there. I would also dare to say (probably more like cope) that the majority of women are good.

But, I believe science states that we look for partners that are like our parents without even knowing it.

This definitely happens for women and I have seen it myself where they have terrible fathers and they get into a cycle of dating terrible men then proclaim that all men are terrible (which recent data disproves as men like women at like a 70-7% percent like/neutral/dislike ratio).

I see no reason to believe it is not different for men. Thankfully my mother is actually great, praise the lord.

Also said recent data shows that women are much more hardline on their political views and will see it as a "red flag" and refuse to date someone that doesn't agree with them. They are effectively filtering themselves for you tbh

Mission-Ball-9625 · 2026-05-02T13:37:36+00:00

I have had the exact same issues as a 26 year old as well. I have to say, it's good to realise this, not every single women is like this, but it's honestly not worth the effort to find them. You'll be much happier when you realise you can just work an easy job, get a dog (they're the best) and do your hobbies with the money you make. It's just not worth the heartache being chained to another adult.

Hearing_Loss · 2026-05-02T11:47:35+00:00

My dad was a piece of shit. All of the men around him were pieces of shit. I will say one woman was there and she did contribute to a lot of the bullshit, but wasn't the sole provider of bullshit. I will agree tho-- the majority of the nonsense I've had to deal with was from a woman who did not understand her power. Ive found that men have a better understanding of their power, but that doesn't mean they also won't utilize it against me, it sjusg that they're much more aware. I will say tho, there are an increasing number of men who don't know their powerand are just as reckless/tantrum prone as the most bipolar caricature of a 50s housewife.

mikiencolor · 2026-05-02T17:14:47+00:00

Teaching someone that they were born inherently good and empathic and anything they do is harmless because they did it is a recipe for churning out narcissists. That's where we are at, unfortunately.

Street_Conflict_9008 · 2026-05-02T19:50:13+00:00

First thing is you dont really know yourself or what you want. You are chasing an idea.

You might want to do a bit of soul searching to understand yourself better, to know what you can offer a relationship, and what you also need from a relationship. Sweet doesnt cut it when you are looking for character traits.

Create a list of things you can offer in a relationship, and a list of things you need from a relationship. However long the list is for each, cut it down to the top 5.

Hint, the more materialistic the dot point, the more shallow the idea is.

This is about understanding character!

You are more asking about dating advice seeking a relationship, this isnt a mens rights issue.

This is just establishing the ground work ONLY!

Edit: Life is brutal, it is not easy. Who cares if they have a different political view, if you can both argee to disagree perspectives that allows for groundwork of understanding. If one always has to be right and there is no room to compromise, this has an effect or more core issues at a deeper level. Political issues tends to be either your passionate or indifferent.

emo-ctrl · 2026-05-04T22:08:42+00:00

100%. Most traumatic situations I’ve ever been in my entire life, was caused by a woman, or a woman’s decision with exception to industrial near death experiences, which were plant safety issues and one in which I almost broke my leg , that one was on me.

Dadumdee · 2026-05-02T13:18:41+00:00

I’m not going to read more than the title. If you know the problem, you should know the solution. Or at least what not to do.

Ambitious_Matter461 · 2026-05-02T18:01:36+00:00

You take you wherever you are. Its no matter what’s between someone’s legs, you’ve got issues in your own head that need taken care of.

Title	All my problems in my life comes from a woman.
Author	ZXDANE
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Date	May 2, 2026 11:28 AM UTC (2 months ago)
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