I contacted an attorney yesterday about starting the divorce process. Nothing feels like it is really ready to start the process (finances are still mixed up) but I was encouraged by my supports to go ahead and at least contact a lawyer. We have been separated for over 7 months and she has been exceedingly toxic during all that time.

I don’t know if I am truly ready, but I am dying inside with all of this waiting. My friends want me to have more protection (I.e. lawyer) against some of the things she has tried/trying. Some of those things include filing false DV allegations, attempting to pretend in public that I was going to hit her by cowering down, and just ignoring all accountability for the downfall of our relationship.