The essentials for attraction

norwegiandoggo · 2026-06-13T12:04:11+00:00

Good question! It matters to different degrees depending on where you're currently at.

Someone that is extremely skinny, or someone that is extremely obese will benefit immensely from getting closer to an average-preference attractive body. So when you're starting very far off the mark, the change in results (and how much positive attention you receive) can be dramatic.

But if you're pretty normal / healthy, have a decent BMI, not too much fat, some muscle etc. Then the gap from that to being really fit isn't as beneficial. Oh, it still matters. Believe me. But it doesn't have that same massive effect as going from deeply unappealing (on average) to normal.

And if you're already fit, or fitter than say 80-90% of the population. Going from that to the top 5% fittest people will not yield as much benefit anymore. Yes, you still get some benefit but at this point it's really difficult for people to spot the differences or care about the difference.

Like, let's say you went from 15% bodyfat to 12% bodyfat. This small change - basically will make such a small difference it will probably not be noticable to you when you try to seduce people.

But that said, the effect size in attractiveness is quite strong for body-composition and strength especially. It is probably one of the best predictors of attractiveness that has been found in psychology research. Meaning that it should be a high priority in any looks-improvement endeavor. Especially if you're currently far off the mark.

12-18% bodyfat is most attractive in studies. And also just being stronger is highly correlated with being more attractive according to women that rate men. But extreme physiques, like drug-using body builders at 4-7% bodyfat are generally seen as too extreme by most women - and most find it unappealing.

Western-Month-3877 · 2026-06-13T12:16:34+00:00

Everything matters and should be taken into account.

Usually people who say “this or that doesn’t matter” takes something fringe/outside the mainstream as an example. Like “my friend is very fat but he sleeps with lots of women”. Even if that’s true how many overly obese guys you know have sex with lots of women?

Same thing like the infamous example “Bill Gates is a college dropout but he’s a billionaire” yeah but how many millionaires/billionaires are college dropouts and how many college dropouts are wealthy?

Dindino- · 2026-06-13T14:16:05+00:00

En cualquier ámbito es importante el verte “bien” pero ese comentario tiene que venir de ti mismo al verte al espejo, si encuentras que hay algunas peet de tu cuerpo que te gustaría aumentar(si eres flaco) o bajar(si estás gordito) entonces lo solucionar yendo al gymnasio y entrenando.

Otro punto es que el verte fit te da una confianza al momento de hacer las cosas diarias, como caminar, la mirada, la forma de interactuar con las personas, hasta en el trabajo nos guste o no, debido a nuestra apariencia es como nos van a tratar, así que respondiendo a tu pregunta, si es importante llevar una vida fit pero como todo en la vida nada en extremo.

Thin_Cabinet_2481 · 2026-06-13T12:38:09+00:00

A good body helps, but confidence and personality matter more. Train for yourself first, the attraction is a bonus.

Cultural-Farm3583 · 2026-06-13T13:29:31+00:00

Being fit helps but confidence personality and how you carry yourself matter just as much the gym is worth it for you not just for attraction

MacheteR · 2026-06-13T13:05:56+00:00

2 years is the sweetspot. Looking like you workout in your clothes is big , looking shredded is a big turn on for them but she only see it when she is in bed with you so not worth it.

Imagine seducing someone without opening your mouth.

Seddit_Only · 2026-06-13T16:36:09+00:00

Integrity, Congruence and Commitment. Commitment to yourself and your values and your principles, your passions and your hobbies.

Miss_Galoldriel · 2026-06-13T13:13:36+00:00

To me (F), the most important thing about a man's body is that it shows he takes care of himself and is healthy. Obesity signals the opposite, while being skinny isn't in itself a telltale sign. But there's a difference between being skinny and somewhat fit, and looking like you never work out at all. Being "skinny-fat" isn't attractive.

As for myself, being fit has certainly increased the amount of interest I get when I go out. I get a lot more attention and compliments. Often, all I have to do is smile, and then I get approached. I have a feeling that it's not only due to the way I look, it's also about feeling comfortable in my body. And I think that goes for everyone: If it shows that you feel good about yourself, your overall appearance will improve.

shinbreaker · 2026-06-13T16:14:55+00:00

There's really no con to the gym body. It's just healthy and looks good. Now if you're doing steroids to get super jacked then yeah, that's not so great.

In general as someone who's down 120lbs, the less heavy you are, the less work you have to do.

ForwardWrongdoer1819 · 2026-06-13T12:03:27+00:00

As a relatively fit guy I value fitness in girls as one of my highest prioritys I can imagine fit girls do the same so if you want to be with fit people it definitely helps, otherwise being fit will get you attention but not much else. (Definitely helps for causal relationship and hookups)

I'm curious what downsides being fit has that you've heard of? The only one I've heard of is that if you present yourself as too heavily into the health and fitness space women might assume your too strict (diet, lifestyle) to have fun, but this can easily be fixed with good game.

The way I see it being fit is like being rich, it might attract women and keep them around but it's not going to create a real lasting connection, that being said if you can attract more women you greatly increase the chances of finding that lasting connection if that's what you're looking for especially in the online dating market, numbers are everything.

alejoflo11 · 2026-06-13T19:10:07+00:00

El estar mamado y fit te hace atractivo porque tener un cuerpo así, te da seguridad. LA SEGURIDAD ES IMPORTANTÍSIMO PARA SER ATRACTIVO. Un cuerpo fuerte y musculoso es señal de DISCIPLINA.

La labia vale verga, NO SIRVE. LAS MUJERES NO ESCUCHAN, las mujeres ven, como te comportas, como lo dices, con que huevos lo dices, como te paras, como la miras, como la tratas, como te tratan y te tratan hombres y mujeres.

Para volverte atractivo es un camino, tienes que desarrollarte, crear tu mejor versión, tener un propósito, deja de perseguir mujeres y dejar el hambre.

MASCULINO, SEGURIDAD, CONFIANZA, BUEN LENGUAJE CORPORAL, HABILIDADES SOCIALES, HIGIENE, LIMPIO, BUEN PERFUME Y LA CARISMA ES IMPORTANTE PERO PARA MI ESO ES NATURAL, NACES CON ESO.

Si vas a ir a romperte el lomo como dices para tener mujeres es lo peor, anclas mejorarte solo para gustarle a las mujeres, HAZLO POR TI, HAZLO POR VERTE BIEN Y SENTIRTE BIEN. Nunca haga cosas por las mujeres porque te va ir mal en la vida.

LAS MUJERES LLEGAN SOLAS, CUANDO DEJAS EL HAMBRE, LAS IGNORAS Y LAS MANDAS A LA VERGA.

ProfessionalEvent484 · 2026-06-18T16:11:01+00:00

Yes. Gym sharpens your jawline, broaden your shoulders. Not to mention you will be a lot bigger, which is very attractive. Something something about being protected that turns most women on. Increased testosterone makes sex better too.

I’m a woman.

Key_Marionberry34 · 2026-06-13T11:18:02+00:00

Attractiveness

Title	The essentials for attraction
Author	tubajr
Upvotes	29
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Date	June 13, 2026 11:11 AM UTC (1 month ago)
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