How can we internalize the gaze of the other gender as a good thing?

dat1q · 2026-07-16T17:27:38+00:00

getting offline helped a lot. real people aren't as extreme.

chamomilecloud · 2026-07-16T17:06:01+00:00

You interact in the real world and stop caring as such.

Male and female nature are only theoretical baselines; everyone has some degree of individuality informed by multiple factors including (but not limited to) regional culture, family, education, social class, religion, and simply personal preferences. Interacting in the real world allows us to see these differences and not treat men and women as if we are all governed by AMALT/AWALT.

It also requires some self-acceptance that you are also probably not exempt from all aspects of male/female nature. If you want others to give you some grace for this (in whatever way this means for you), then it should make sense to give them the same grace too.

Jenneapolis · 2026-07-16T18:17:38+00:00

I wrote about the RPW “Hopeless Phase” here and how to combat it.
https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/9iWNcManve

GivMeLiberty · 2026-07-16T17:39:28+00:00

I was able to “forgive” and even start to appreciate the opposite sex for the uglier aspects of their nature by genuinely realizing that the uglier aspects of their nature are out of their control and necessary for the parts that I find attractive.

InevitableKiwi5776 · 2026-07-16T19:10:53+00:00

I found that RP theory explained things that I had observed IRL, so it wasn’t really jarring or shocking to learn these theories. And I understand that most traits are expressed in a bell curve, and that AWALT/AMALT is about the tendency or capacity to do something, a description of what is happening subconsciously, not saying that every person WILL do specific things.

Also it helps to understand that when most men (especially TRP men) say “women” they mean “women I’m attracted to”. So it’s helpful to read their takes with that in mind.

And there are certain “rules” that I just plain disagree with but I think they are useful concepts to think through. For instance in one popular post Whisper says that women will only have sex with men they want to marry or procreate with. I don’t believe that is true, but I think it would actually be better for women if it was true or if we chose adhere to that rule. It gave me something to think about and reflect on and decide my opinion on something I had never thought about before. And I guess that’s another point! A lot of this stuff is stuff people didn’t used to think critically about and I think that more people learning about RP concepts and thinking critically about sex and dating dynamics is mostly positive.

Dionne005 · 2026-07-16T17:04:37+00:00

Looking at people as individuals and not as gender. One man may look at you and address you properly and the other won’t all in the same day and place. Also understanding not everyone is for everybody. There are more bad people or people with issues than good people that fit you. That even goes for same sex friendships. People grow up and values change. Some get better and others worse based on intellect and experiences and desires for growth.

Cosima_Fan_Tutte · 2026-07-16T20:17:12+00:00

-As others said, go offline, I don't think any red pill spaces are good for young women or women who've had bad experiences with men, even RPW. I do think online forums make gender relations worse. The genders know way too much about each other.

-Stop thinking too much, people on these forums tend to be highly neurotic and introverted..they think and write too much and do too little.

-Embrace the "bad" traits to an extent. There's no masculinity without some toxicity. Every good male trait comes with a downside..same for women.

-Get out sooner than later! Do what you can to find someone when you're young and leave this all behind. I think the people happiest in love are blue pilled men and women who're reasonably attractive, naturally extroverted and pair up sooner than later.

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Title: How can we internalize the gaze of the other gender as a good thing?

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Full text: I think the red pill communities of both genders have an "anger" phase where once we start to think about how the other gender evaluates or sees us, it can be a deeply distressing thing and for both genders it can feel a little degrading. I'd love to hear if, and how, you've been able to move past this issue.

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Sea_Bookkeeper_1533 · 2026-07-17T09:24:34+00:00

You decide to use it for your benefit.

Title	How can we internalize the gaze of the other gender as a good thing?
Author	Capable_Ad5212
Upvotes	9
Comments	12
Date	July 16, 2026 4:55 PM UTC (4 days ago)
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