A girl I'm seeing isn't a huge fan of cuddling, hand holding, giving affectionate gestures, etc. Thoughts?

Tiway22 · 2016-01-18T09:57:54+00:00

Find girls who give you what you want.

Devilsalwayscry · 2016-01-18T09:14:52+00:00

You're addicted to affection. You need to be careful as this type of behavior, especially coming from a strong desire as you describe it is indicative of Beta behavior.

UndergroundRP · 2016-01-18T13:33:50+00:00

One of my favorite exes HATED kissing and cuddling. We lived together for a few years, and she insisted that we always had separate blankets too.

I thought both of those things were weird at first. After awhile, I came to like both of them. She was always sexually available and enjoyed sex. She was one of the few girls I've known where fucking her was actually easier than masturbating.

Being that you've only seen this girl twice, it could be any number of things. Maybe she doesn't know you well enough, or maybe she isn't into you.

frequentlywrong · 2016-01-18T14:48:55+00:00

You've only seen her twice and expect affectionate behavior? Don't be stupid. You sound needy and desperate.

SeekingTheWay · 2016-01-18T10:07:30+00:00

Maybe she has a boyfriend and doesn't wanna get caught with you before the full branchswing happens.

DemonConsulting · 2016-01-18T10:44:28+00:00

give it another 2 dates or so - be the alpha on the outside but try to build some comfort when you're intimate, if she's shy she might really just need some time to build trust... but if she really isn't into it by then, just find another girl who likes to be more physically affectionate .

94redstealth · 2016-01-18T15:45:49+00:00

My first guess is you haven't properly railed her yet. Every woman I have ever given a good rogering to has cuddled like she was hanging on for dear life.
You have to instill the protector role or she won't feel comfortable enough.

Sir_Distic · 2016-01-18T18:25:17+00:00

You might be too pushy or clingy. Try being less affectionate. Reward her when she does affectionate things you like.

If this continues (for example a night of Netflix & Chill) then next her.

Go find women that meet your expecations

yGTWgtNrco · 2016-01-18T20:18:43+00:00

Try taking her somewhere secluded and see if she's more affectionate. Some people are uncomfortable with the idea of being seen as affectionate. If she isn't agreeable, I'd defer to /u/Leviticus59 and "Next her"

RedAsBlood · 2016-01-20T04:12:20+00:00

Have you had sex with her?

If you try to force intimacy with her when shes not into it, you risk coming off as needy/ desperate.

You need to tone that shit down. Ideally, she should be all over you.

This is either a huge red flag (girls with intimacy issues should be avoided like the fucking plague) or its just a sign that she really doesn't like you that much.

Ignore what she says, pay attention to her actions. If shes actively pulling away when you touch her (and you haven't slept with her) - shes just not attracted to you. Either way, your beat option here is just to next her.

Title	A girl I'm seeing isn't a huge fan of cuddling, hand holding, giving affectionate gestures, etc. Thoughts?
Author	StarDestinyGuy
Upvotes	7
Comments	22
Date	January 18, 2016 8:04 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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