Dumped by unicorn LTR. Need some help becoming the Alpha I used to be.

Leonardslemons · 2021-05-26T09:03:27+00:00

I mean bro you gotta let it go. The only way you're ever going to move on from this, is if you let it go, and stop caring about what she wants or what she regrets.

Time heals, and with that wisdom grows. You'll be back to normal soon enough, but dwelling on the past numbs the process.

You'll realize that it was the relationship that is making you feel this way. You'll find new relationships and you'll realize that relationships worth having don't make you feel this way, even in the rough patches.

alphaonthecomeup · 2021-05-26T10:41:12+00:00

Time for you to do new shit.

Start traveling!!! around with a friend on the weekends. Seriously , new environments and experiences help put things into perspective a bit.

Lift harder.

Go to a sauna spa place and go get a massage.

Cop some fresh new clothes your ex hasn’t seen.

It’s gonna take some more time for you to get over her and for her to start missing you.

You have to feel like shit entirely for it to get out of your system. Don’t try to numb the pain too much when you’re going through it. Go through the heartbreak and come out stronger. Cry and let it out. Then go journal on paper. Write letters to yourself about your feelings and if you get the urge to text her , just write a letter to her that you never send. Keep the letters so you can laugh at yourself 6 months from now or throw them away and continue to write new ones.

I can’t promise you’ll ever get over her forever, but you’ll adapt to her out of your life and move forward eventually. Enjoy the heartbreak though as much as you can. I’ve done some of my best lifting heartbroken and I’ve pushed myself immensely to the point where if I hadn’t been heartbroken , I wouldn’t have leveled up as much as I did. You also feel music more too when you’re sad. Just look for the pros of this. You didn’t get her pregnant. You were in , got what you wanted and now you’re out, clean. Free to pursue new experiences and potentially fall in love with new girls.

I broke up with my ex a year and some change ago. Devastated. Tried to get her back multiple times, got her for a bit but the relationship always crumbled since it was long distance anyways. Now I’m in love with a new girl who is probably going to break my heart one day , my ex wants me back and i can probably still slide in whenever I want.

Focus on you and come out stronger. New girls will come along even if you don’t think they will. Your ex may even want to hop back on your dock after seeing you level up. Who knows. Just make sure you are ready when they do.

Super_Ad_1226 · 2021-05-26T09:13:58+00:00

Face your fears head on. Watch some inspirational shit, don’t say you’re back to your body go past that. Just use the fuel to rise like a Phoenix. It’s hard but you can do it.

cat_magnet · 2021-05-26T10:38:24+00:00

She doesn't sound like a unicorn to me. Just another thot.

Aeterni_ · 2021-05-26T09:51:51+00:00

I’d recommend taking some time away from women entirely for awhile; in my experience, engaging in romantic and sexual pursuits with other women while getting over a heartbreak can make you feel worse. You’re a mess. Get off of social media, hang out with guy friends, focus on your mental and physical health for awhile.

ErectileDistention · 2021-05-26T12:48:34+00:00

"she's a unicorn" = You put her on a pedestal

Your self worth is completely tied to her next social media post. Maybe you should read the sidebar. Maybe you'll realize that this not her making but it's all your fragile ego in your fragile mind.

Expensive-Language15 · 2021-05-26T14:25:48+00:00

In time you'll naturally devalue her by experiencing new things, so for now keep working on yourself and work up your pride in yourself, and don't be hard on yourself for feeling them feelz, it'll pass

I also suggest you make some conclusions so you can feel safer in the future from situations like this and more confident in your ability to maneuver emotional traps, in the end it's we who put ourselves in these pits usually so it might help you as it helped me

WolfofAllStreetz · 2021-05-26T17:39:57+00:00

David Goggins on YouTube. Look it up. All you need.

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jjj2576 · 2021-05-26T16:02:55+00:00

This is what happens when your break Iron Rule of Tomassi #7.

OptimisticalRanger · 2021-05-26T23:28:49+00:00

We all go through this at some stage.

Just remember it's a learning experience and hopefully you'll have gained better judgement, so you don't jump into a LTR that's not right for you.

Remember this is mostly biological and with time it'll pass. Diet, gym, socialisation and running will all help. Allow yourself 5 minutes to cry a day but no more. It's not useful after 2 months anymore.

Also don't ever want her to mis you or regret her decision. That still means you value her opinion. Which is counter-productive to your mission now.

Title	Dumped by unicorn LTR. Need some help becoming the Alpha I used to be.
Author	AidAndPie
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Date	May 26, 2021 8:39 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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