I recently discovered I am expecting a child. The person with whom I've copulated was an ex. Last time we got "pregnant", things were terrible.

Both lost their cool last time and turned against each other.

Now in that situation again.

How do you feel about the ultimatum: "We are going to abort or I get full custody."? How should this situation be approached? She might want it, he absolutely doesn't. But if she carries it to term, he has threatened to (and grandparents have the money to) take her to court to attain said full custody.