Girl looking for commitment after first date, How do I respond to this?

itsawomensworld · 2016-03-13T18:44:46+00:00

NEVER LET A WOMEN LEVEL JUMP IN A RELATIONSHIP BY SEX

It really has 2 scenarios. You say yes lets be in a relationship. She still witholds sex because your intentions are so obvious. And 2) She respects you less.

Unfortunately the better option is risking losing her because her ground rules aren't fair and adhering to them is BETA mode

stickfiguresk · 2016-03-13T20:39:12+00:00

Iron frame. Change the narrative:

"I don't swing into relationships with strangers."

Or if you want to nuke the shit out of that hamster, "I'm not conflicted. I have no interest in jumping into a relationship with somebody I barely know, nore should anyone do that, ever."

I wouldn't initiate again, though. The, "ok" killed the momentum for a frame reset. Wait for her to initiate.

abdada · 2016-03-13T16:09:53+00:00

Perfect respons, now go Game other women. If you feel like seeing her again, invite her over in the future.

If she wants to play these games, she can be lonely or accept dates with losers.

GC0W30 · 2016-03-13T19:40:04+00:00

I'm tacking a different tack on this one.

I've been on dozens of dates. An easy 25-50% were crazy.

I never had a chick attempt lockdown before date #3.

I smell crazy sauce. I would go into my 'nice guy', drive them away routine. I would try to friendzone myself. Offer to pay for coffee, check in on her about how she's doing, text her cat pics, whatever. Send needy texts. Beg her to spend time with you. When she doesn't respond to one of these after like 10 minutes, act like you're freaking out and send repeated texts asking her why she isn't responding.

huge_gap · 2016-03-13T16:25:01+00:00

Keep dating her and decide later

RedAsBlood · 2016-03-14T00:22:22+00:00

You handled it perfectly. Don't reach out to her any further unless she contacts you.

Personally, I wouldn't talk to this girl any further. Its quite clear what she is looking for. If you continue seeing her this will only come back up over and over.

Reddened · 2016-03-14T01:19:11+00:00

I like stickfiguresk answer the best. It is pretty presumptuous of her to expect commitment after hanging out once, you barely even know this girl. Say something that lets her know this without making it sound like you're angry or give a fuck. (though as others have mentioned you should wait for her to re-engage to do)

It may sound crass but your commitment is your pussy, don't give it up easily.

ApexScorpion · 2016-03-14T05:44:43+00:00

She blew her LTR chances completely, if there were any. She pulled the entitlement card too early. Her agenda is clear. How old is she? Sounds near/post wall to me.

All_Ads_Deceive · 2016-03-14T09:23:47+00:00

Next...

hailhailhailandkill · 2016-03-14T13:44:04+00:00

You are the gatekeeper of commitment and she is the gatekeeper of sex.

Relationships are economics. And the economics is never wrong.

Her possible moves are further F-containing threats and even F itself in order to obtain commitment; your move is to obtain f without commitment (unless you want to LTR her).

Your reply has been open to each interpretation. Agreement too. IMO you'll have to express that you don't agree with not doing anything until it's clarified somehow.

Title	Girl looking for commitment after first date, How do I respond to this?
Author	JohnTRP
Upvotes	6
Comments	21
Date	March 13, 2016 4:07 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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