One-itis.

TheTerrorSquad · 2015-01-14T09:14:21+00:00

Alpha widowhood, falling for the wrong guy, falling in love whatever.
You realise you've made a mistake and you know what you need to do. You won't get any magic pill that annihilates those feelings you need to let go and move on.

Assuming you have made a mistake and realised you have become attached to a guy you shouldn't have I would cut all contact, delete all numbers and social media contact and don't be tempted to text or speak to him by proxy of speaking to his friends.

Long story short it hurts. It's like a vice in your chest that crushes you. It's horrible but any woman that has gone through it will tell you, leave it alone. Keep yourself busy, don't rebound with someone else and give it time. Draw a line in the sand and learn from your mistakes.

I went through it once when I was very young and I sometimes look back on it as a right of passage. I learnt a lot from it and made sure to never make those same mistakes again.

Do whatever you can to occupy your time, see some friends hang out with the family whatever. It will get better, ask your mother.

Aine_of_knockaine · 2015-01-14T09:33:32+00:00

Yes it exists for women also. Alpha Widowhood, falling in love, puppy love, obsession, lust, etc.

I think most people have felt something similar at some point in time. Sometimes you fall for the wrong person. It hurts. Acknowledging it and moving on is really the only thing you can do.

We all make mistakes. It's important to take what you've learned and put that towards a new relationship.

You might get a new hobby, hang out with your friends, or even just complain and moan. You just find a way to make yourself feel better and get over it.

PhantomDream09 · 2015-01-14T20:52:55+00:00

The more important thing than the term for this (which /u/TheTerrorSquad already covered is: what happened, what did you do, and/or what's the problem?

[deleted] · 2015-01-14T09:39:34+00:00

If anything, I would make a stupid term up having to do with trinity finding her neo. But that's fantasy.

The reason blue pill men have oneitis is becuase they are delusional i.e "love is blind." The reason a woman doesn't typically fall for one-itits is becuase her love is in some way rational, always based off the typical positive masculine traits, physical and mental. This is why in evolutionary biology and and red pill theoretics, women typically appeal to 20% of the male gene pool.

I hate biology just love who you want, but have a good reason that matches your individual self. One-itits is bad for everyone.

katiewampus · 2015-01-16T21:43:09+00:00

It's time for a branch swing, even if you don't see the next branch. Just imagining it will give you a sense of relief that you're leaving the wrong one behind you. It's good that you realized your mistake before marrying it.

mrp3anut · 2015-01-14T22:18:23+00:00

Did this guy fuck your brains out in such a way that every time you think about or have sex he comes to mind? If not then you don't have oneitis nor are you an alpha widow.

There is a reason the term applies to men only. There is no female equivalent because if there was the term would not be gender specific.

Title	One-itis.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	4
Comments	9
Date	January 14, 2015 7:40 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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