Hi ladies,

I'm a little embarrassed to be posting this to be honest. I started dating my current boyfriend pre-FDS, and he was already infinitely better than my exes. Then I found FDS, and he treats me even better now because I expected more of him. I did read the handbook.

On to the problem at hand. He has a friend who he happened to meet off OLD prior to meeting me. When we started dating, he told me he had made a platonic friend off OLD. They both mutually decided they were better suited to be friends. This actually never bothered me because 1) I at the time had a friend I met off OLD as well (but not anymore because I realized having him as a friend did not benefit me at all). 2) I knew of other people who made friends off OLD. 3) He said he never did anything physical with her. 4) She has a boyfriend now too, and she knows about me 5) I know he wouldn't cheat on me. He's not about hookup culture or casual sex. Even pre fds when i would have totally had casual sex with him, he wanted us to be exclusive first.

However I recently found out that they talked/send memes to each other everyday. A couple months ago they hung out, alone, together - getting food. I didn't question which friend he was hanging out with. At that time, I didn't know who she was. I only knew that he has a friend from OLD but didn't know the extent of their friendship. Now that I know the extent of their friendship, it...makes me uncomfortable. I'm not really sure why.

I talked to him about it and we made the compromise that he would never meet up with her again, but they can still message each other. Half the time they just send each other funny videos and whatnot.

Some time has passed and I thought I'd be okay with it. But a part of me is still sort of uncomfortable. I'd feel controlling asking him to dial down their friendship even more - especially since they never did anything physical together. I'm also not very good at articulating my thoughts and words..so this isn't very easy for me to bring up as an issue again.

Edit to say that he invited me out to hang out with them once but I declined since I was so uncomfortable with their friendship. So I know he's not hiding me from her or her from me.

Just need some advice, I will take any harsh words.