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[–]FrameWalker38 points39 points40 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
To be fair, I'm not getting "divorce raped." We have shared 50-50 custody of our daughter and she hasn't asked anything from me financially.
This is the most important thing. For the next 6 months till its over you want to maintain this. MAke sure you're lawyered up to the teeth and she doesn't pull a fast one.
Forget beta/alpha etc until you're in the clear.
[–]Byizo8 points9 points10 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is really important. After finding and reading about TRP I was tempted to do a complete 180 with my wife, who was planning to divorce me at the time. I wanted to change and make her regret her decision.
But it was really, REALLY important not to. Instead of going all fake alpha RP on her I kept to the same person I had been with her over the last decade and made a different life with new people in my spare time. In the long run it didn't matter what she thought of me. All that mattered is that I got out relatively unscathed: No alimony; Split belongings 50/50; Fair child custody agreement. I got a lawyer and swallowed the same bullshit she was feeding me until she was gone for good.
[–]MuhTriggersGuise5 points6 points7 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This. If whatever you're doing is going to enable you to avoid being divorce raped, and permit you equal access to your child, continue doing it. Don't rock the boat until you're out from under her thumb, which will happen when the divorce is finalized.
If she starts pushing for more custody or money, then start applying TRP theory, since it might help and you have nothing to lose.
Remember, current LTRs and exes who expect you to be beta will be extremely resistant to any change in that. You really don't want to initiate conflict so close to being free of her and cementing access to your child, and placing yourself in a position of way more power in your continuing dealings with your ex wife. Half the reason she probably isn't bothering dealing with divorce raping you and taking your child is because she thinks she will always have you under her thumb. Do nothing to make her doubt this until you're free. Maintain the course until through with your divorce or she stops playing nice.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"Think as you like, but behave like others." Get your mind and priorities in order, but I think this is good advice.
[–]GeminiEngine1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Best advice in this thread. My current plan. Hope for the best but ALWAYS prepare for the worst.
[–]redpillat4017 points18 points19 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I try to fuck her and occasionally she lets me.
She "let's you"? That's the Beta in you talking.
Fuck other women. She's no snowflake.
[–]TRP VanguardWhisper6 points7 points8 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You cannot successfully enact redpill strategy until your pride is stronger than your lust. Until then, you will be controllable with the promise of pussy.
You have to stop fucking her. Even if she wants it, even if you know you could get it, even if you have no other options. Turn her down flat.
Keep doing this. Watch the power dynamic shift.
Then find another woman.
[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev5 points6 points7 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yet. That shit can change, fast, when it comes time to actually do it.
Whatever you agree to "temporarily" becomes permanent, so don't be "generous" and don't give her more custody than you are willing to in the final.
[–]ex_addict_bro2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Marriedredpill
[–]lanky327 points8 points9 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You do not respect yourself. That's what your actions tell her. No wonder, she treats you like shit.
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
She emasculated me on a daily basis
And she's still doing that? 100% the best thing for you to do right now is to go no contact. Cold turkey. Break it off completely as soon as you possibly can. If there's a chance that she can still divorce-rape you even now, remain cordial and polite, but you need to stop initiating contact. If she wants sex or anything else, tell her that you're busy.
This relationship is totally unhealthy and you're not going to be able to move on, let alone improve yourself, if you're still talking to her.
[–]bornredd1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
How exactly is he going to go no contact and still see his kid?
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I was implying NC besides what was necessary, guess I should've made that clearer.
Now I know I was beta as fuck and I allowed all of that to happen. It's on me.
Don't want to tear into you. This is the most important realization.
The problems you are having with her since that realization come from you not having other women, plain and simple.
[–]jeezydasnowman1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Don't answer your phone or her texts unless it's to hook up. If she tries to do anything romantic with you like go on a date or talk about the future politely decline. If she turns you down for sex leave. Lift.
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[–]Boozt1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Why do u even want to fuck her?
You talk to her in regards of your child. STOP FUCKING HER! The more you fuck her the longer she has your balls. Go try to fuck other girls or hire a hooker but god damn do not keep fucking her.
[–]MuhTriggersGuise1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
This is horrible advice given at the moment she isn't planning on divorce raping him. If giving her a lay every once in a while validates her and makes her feel she still has him under her thumb, do it. Don't make grand stands and rock the boat until you either get past when she can fuck your life, or if she stops playing nice.
[–]Boozt0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
At the same time... doesn't it prolong the divorce when they are still fucking due to the 1year of separation (i.e. if they fuck 3 months in, they restart with another 12months)? Then for his own mental sanity... idk man.
[–]MuhTriggersGuise0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That's not how separation works.
[–]Boozt0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ok I was misinformed. Thought I read a case somewhere in TRP where dude got screwed because he went back to have sex with her. Whatever it takes to not get raped then.
[–]Maldek0070 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Welcome to the right place.
The correct course of action is to treat her like you would treat a FB. You know what that is, right? No feelings whatsoever and just see her for sex. Do not go there to talk, do not talk about work or her day. Make clear you are available for sex only.
Simple. BruceJennerize yourself. You're not worthy.
[–]synthetic_kinetic0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Depends. Is your name Sasha Grey?
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