I am fucking pathetic. Been stuck in love with oneitis for over TWO FUCKING YEARS! FUCK!

FrameWalker · 2015-07-10T19:36:08+00:00

At 19 you have no idea. You have no reference and you've overvalued your snowflake. It took me four years to get over my one-itis. When I was 20 got to third base with two girls in a dorm room in college. Bye bye oneitis.

Zeparic · 2015-07-10T19:35:54+00:00

If it's any consolation your brain isn't even fully developed yet. You'll be making poor decisions for a while, it's all part of learning. But you found TRP, you will learn and you will grow.

fnordsnord · 2015-07-10T19:56:04+00:00

If you were my son, I would slap you silly.

But here's the good news. You're still young. True, you've wasted valuable training resources. High School is almost the perfect time to figure women out because they're cluelessly trying to figure themselves out. But you've got plenty of time to crush it.

awayofthought · 2015-07-10T20:01:46+00:00

This is why Pook recommends either being with multiple women at a time or not being with women at all (monk mode).

tepper2 · 2015-07-10T19:17:54+00:00

All I read was the first line. Go read the TRP sidebar, then read it again. Lurk and ask questions once you've done that.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2015-07-11T04:53:15+00:00

Faint Heart Never Fucked Fair Lady.

This blows hard for you, I get it. When you see a girl you like, you need to go after it right away. Otherwise, you build all this bullshit up in your mind and you get wrapped around an axle over it.

Spare yourself the bullshit and pain. You (just like pretty much every other guy) needs to learn this:

Think horizontally, not vertically

On a subconscious level, women know within 30 seconds of meeting a guy if he's a candidate for getting a shot at her eggs or not. Don't fuck around, listening to crappy emo music, thinking "She's too pretty for me" or "I wonder if she knows I exist?"

So what do I mean by "think horizontally, not vertically"? Easy....approach, approach, approach, and when you've done that, fucking approach some more. Guys get locked in on their One Special Snowflake, don't make a move and they fall into an emotional abyss when she starts fucking an outlaw biker.

All thinking "vertically" does is make you keep investing in ONE girl....it's not like you're finally going to get the tenth stamp on your "Nice Guy Card" and she's finally going to give you all the sex you deserve.

The good news for you is that you're young and have time to recover. So don't get wound up about the next hottie. Instead, do this: Take a deep breath, and Make It Count.

erniesmoove · 2015-07-10T20:34:32+00:00

You have no abundance mentality, that’s why you have that nasty oneitis.

Stop watching RSD (knowledge is addicting and without application it is useless), grow some balls and go get rejected as much as you can. Talk to girls, fail and fail better. The beginning is never perfect. Eventually you will meet many great women and you’ll have that abundance mentality you desperately need.

About this girl: Erase her from everything and avoid her like the plague. You will never get out of the whole if you keep destroying yourself mentally. Read the side bar and stop reading anything else, go in the field that test what you know. Lastly, the best advice I can give you is: always smile for no reason, at any time. This will make you happier 100% guaranteed, it will even improve you’re new "boring" self. Keep it up, you can do it.

daygamer69 · 2015-07-10T23:49:12+00:00

Two years? Try seven. Barely even saw her for the last five years and only watched her and talked a little bit for those first two years, that's as BP as it gets.

Eventually fixed with abundance mentality.

KaribouLouDied · 2015-07-10T23:55:20+00:00

Im jealous you found TRP at 19 years old. Keep reading. Keep learning. You are going to be more well off than I am seeing as how I am still purple at 23 years old.

americanpegasus · 2015-07-11T07:12:02+00:00

Dude, you're 19.

You're not supposed to have it figured out yet. And you have a lot of heartbreak left to go (with other women) before you will become the man you were meant to be. You will look back on yourself now at 24 and think you're an idiot, and then at 29 you'll look back on your 24 year old self and think he's an idiot. You haven't even fully developed into the idiot you will eventually despise yourself for being.

So enjoy the ride. Don't hold yourself to impossible standards. And keep growing and becoming better every day.

These are not the best years of your life, despite what anyone may tell you. These are your years to learn how worthless an average man is, so you can commit to a course of constant improvement that will take you towards success in your 30s.

[deleted] · 2015-07-11T15:42:48+00:00

Was in same boat except I didn't call. No contact. Go travel. Realize it's all in your head

midnightbean · 2015-07-11T16:31:57+00:00

19?

Your brain won't be fully developed for another 5-7 years.

You have 5-6 years to develop and find TRP before many of us who found it at 25+.

You may not believe it, and it will be hard to instill it in your mind, but you will come across many more "unicorns". You'll find the girl of your dreams many times over and you'll screw those up too. Eventually you'll learn they're just people.

You are at an advantage here. Celebrate. All the opportunities ahead of you to act on and learn from.

Title	I am fucking pathetic. Been stuck in love with oneitis for over TWO FUCKING YEARS! FUCK!
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Date	July 10, 2015 7:12 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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