So ive got a group of friends i hang out with from time to time. Ive recently entered monk mode by reading a lot more, going to the gym, doing hot yoga, finding a new job, and planning my future to go back to school again.

These friends who i see from time to time are a great reminder as to why i entered monk mode in the first place, but one thing that seems to bother me is their greater success with women than i. I havnt been with a woman for close to a year now. A few of them have girlfriends, and one sleeps around alot. I regularly applaud them on their success with women but it is hard for me to do so because i find them to be real douchebags. The one that gets a lot of women talks mad shit about people. He was talking about one of our old friends the other day who i really admire by saying he wouldnt be shit in 10 years even though he just completed his masters. The one with a gf regularly negs me publicly online. He doesnt explicitly say anything rude but hes a poor loser that rages when shit doesnt go his way, yet loves to rub it in my face when he outdoes me at something.

Trouble is, im a lot stronger and athletic than all of them from my yoga and weightlifting which is why i am dissalusioned as to why they treat me this way. I could snap any one of them in half with my pinky if i so chose. I dont like violence unless both parties agree to it, but these guys are getting under my skin.

Im afraid to cut them out of my life because they are the only friends i have right now, and eventhough im in monk mode, it is still nice to let lose with the boys every few weeks.

What i cant seem to understand is why these douches are having more success with women than me. I feel i have more integrity and respect than all of them, yet when i approach women i tend to fail often.

I want to be able to discuss my failures with my friends, but every attempt i make they just end up negging and disrespecting me.

I dont know if it is jealousy or what, because it isnt even like im getting any women at the momemt. So im confused.

These friends of mine really get under my skin, but it has very little to do with jealousy. I actually want to learn their ways of getting women, but unfortunately they are grade a douchebags which makes me very unwanting of interacting with them.

Anyway, should i expect douchebqgs like this to be in every social hierarchy i enter? Or are these shit talking friends of mine just a bad luck sort of thing?