Links to my other LTR Game articles:

LTR Game: Maintaining Frame

LTR Game Part 2: Building the Foundation

LTR Game Part 3: Unicorn Hunter Checklist

LTR Game Part 4: Positive Masculinity

LTR Game Part 5: Love and Power

LTR Game Part 6: Egalitarianism and Ownership

LTR Game Part 7: Permission and Privilege

The vast majority of men who come to TRP need to bring their “alpha” index up to secure or improve their success with women. They need to solidify assertive behaviors that show women that they are not so flexible to their nonsense and testing. No man is pure alpha or beta, but the modern western male is overwhelmingly a doormat to the western woman. The solution is not to find and import some “home grown” Eastern European or Asian woman who has “real patriarchal values”. This is something I've seen circulating in the last year or more of this sub, and it’s ASININE. Once the context for for a woman’s good behavior is gone (which in this case is her former society), what incentive will she have for behaving with you? European, Asian, American- it doesn't matter, they all need YOU to run a patriarchy for two in order to be happy, functional, and sane.

If you consistently and supplicatingly go along to get along, or become indulgent in the fact that you do not have to assert rules or boundaries and get the fuzzies for being “nice” to your woman, you will be primed for failure and your relationship will collapse. Remember that WOMEN NEED MEN well more than men need women, we in very literal ways provide them operational sanity. The hypoagency and sloth of women left to their own devices should never be underestimated. Most women will not have the perspective to realize their needs consciously, and during entitled little fits, they’ll block this subroutine from directing their behavior entirely. The difference is, you know that she NEEDS you, and you will be assertive about your needs and desires regardless of what she decides to fit about.

NATURAL CIRCUMSTANCES

There are two major reward centers women have to determine value in a relationship with a man, and these are in accordance with her needs. These centers work to ascertain which masculine behaviors constitute support and which constitute leadership. There are others not included here, but just a few examples:

Support: Affection, loyalty, empathy, generosity, material means.

Leadership: Assertiveness, courage, judgment, status, social means.

Leadership and support as concepts are similar to alpha and beta, respectively. When you take a look at what makes the overall best (socially constructive) types of leaders, it is not someone with purely alpha traits, it is someone with a good deal of traits from both leadership and support categories. Given the choice, every woman wants a strong man with a soft side, but the inverse is not nearly as attractive. This is a problem in our society as it stands today.

ASSERTIVE POSTURE

A man treating a woman as though she is less than him (see: negging, agree and amplify, amused mastery) displays that she does not have power over him. This forces on her the perception that the man has authority, the proof never needs to be made explicit, it is displayed in his behavior from moment to moment. In the interest of remaining attracted, a woman does not want to fully comprehend you and she does not want a power leverage in the relationship if she is attracted to you. The realization that she is the leader or that she has you all figured out leaves her feeling as though she’s exposed to greater risks, and must be assertive when in a leadership vacuum. This situation will leave her discontent.

Being assertive is uncomfortable for a lot of men who have been brought up a bit soft. They equate bluntness or assertiveness with being a jerk, but these are not synonymous. Our culture has been conditioning men to provide and protect at all levels but does not encourage being assertive and refusing to put up with feminine nonsense. These men are maladjusted to the needs of women. You must lead and love, you cannot do one to the exclusion of another in an LTR.

Getting into fights with women shows that they are on your level, that they are a peer. This, combined with the emotional flood that swells in them from any source of drama, can result in things like makeup sex, but do not be fooled. This is a slow trickle, and bit by bit your status in her eyes is corroded and it loses enough structure until it all falls away. Fights in and of themselves don't make women unhaaaappy, you losing status and becoming a peer, or a subordinate to them- this will make them unhaaaappy. Even if nothing is structurally wrong with the relationship, becoming her peer or subordinate is the primary cause of a woman's interpersonal unhaaaappiness.

SUPPORTIVE POISE

I see the fallacy thrown around TRP quite a bit that any “beta” behaviors is equal to supplication. This should not be as popular as it is, because it’s nonsense. Some degree of support (NOT supplication) is NECESSARY for the comfort and happiness of a woman, and if you want to have a successful LTR or family, your woman needs to be comforted to make the sailing as smooth as possible. This is not the same as saying you should supplicate. Never tolerate her bullshit, and evaluate your feelings as they come to you.

Supplication would be tolerating all of your woman’s behavior with quiet desperation. Feeling angry because you see your woman being full of shit, or acting like a bitch? Try to temper the expression so that you’re responsible in disclosing your thoughts, but don’t ever hide them because your woman will not understand that she is doing something disagreeable or unacceptable. Remember- any time she misbehaves and you don’t speak up is a missed leadership opportunity.

You do not ALWAYS have to be overtly assertive, being assertive is simply the most direct route to both a clear understanding on your woman's part and to acquiring whatever it is that you want from her. Ambiguity is one of the more subtle, but still powerful stances you can use on women in any context to still show status in the absence of overt assertiveness. This works in both positive and negative directions- dread and amused mastery both have elements of ambiguity that allow women to make their OWN associations. In the case of dread, they know they're in some trouble (even if the realization has a slow onset) and they begin, perhaps randomly, making ambiguous assumptions to what the trouble could be. The more potential associations they make, the more powerful your attempt at dread is in this instance.

When you force your woman into becoming an emotional crutch rather than allowing her to occasionally perform emotional support- this is an abuse of her nature and desires because she is NOT YOUR MOTHER. Supplicant betas want a mother, and they live in eventual misery when their women intuitively live into this role.

Women don’t want to look down on the men they love, but if your behavior forces her to look down on you, it’s easier to not love you than it is to forget your lower station.

DICHOTOMOUS BALANCE

What essential elements does the usual dichotomy of alpha/beta provide a woman? Survival and happiness.

  • Leader (alpha) is the means to a woman's survival and happiness. It is a set of behaviors that gears a man for success, and inspires others to do more, which includes performing his will.
  • Support (beta) is the security of a woman's survival and happiness. It provides an overall umbrella that makes a woman feel secure, and this makes her comfortable.

Absolutes on each end of the usual alpha/beta spectrums are negative and dysfunctional. All of these extremes will cause severe anxiety, bridging on insanity:

  • Too much alpha, and she is never secure. Forcing an uncalibrated will on your woman creates a shell of a person.
  • Too much beta, and she comes to resent you. Forcing the need for more agency than a woman is comfortable with makes her feel like she is exposed to too much risk.
  • Too little alpha, and she feels uninspired. Uninspired women become lazy, slothful when it comes to your needs. She suffers without direction, has very little ability to recognize what would please you, and she rarely feels interpersonally accomplished.
  • Too little beta and she feels isolated. Unprovisioned women don't even have a temporary sense of security. She cannot hang on to positive states

I will discuss pure examples of four different archetypes.

Leadership and support should be considered individual, absolute binaries when reading the below descriptions.

Functional Leadership/Dysfunctional Support

Inspires/exploits

  • Example: Thugs. Sociopaths.

This archetype has all the assertiveness he needs to be a leader, but without supportive traits, he is irresponsible in wielding his influence for the benefit of all involved, and is thus quite short sighted with regard to the long term effects of his actions. Dark Triads belong in this category as well. People inspired by this archetype will not feel security in the relationship.

Dysfunctional Support/ Dysfunctional Leadership

Lazy/exploits

  • Example: Omega male. Forever alones.

This archetype is composed of failures without positive masculine traits. Even if the omega were to be attractive/successful enough in physical ways, behaviorally his fate is sealed. Women will be repulsed by him, and men will not respect or like him.

Dysfunctional Leadership/Functional Support

Lazy/protects

  • Example: Supplicating beta. Typical western male.

Has adequately functional support, but has few (if any) leadership traits. Will not be assertive enough for either party in the relationship. His woman will grow to resent him after repeated failures during leadership opportunities.

Functional Leadership/Functional Support

Inspires/protects

  • Example: Patriarch. Head of household. This is what you must strive to be. You functionally wield authority and support for self and mutual benefit. Either for your LTR, your marriage, or for your whole family.

The overall lesson here should be that most every man needs to increase his assertiveness, but a measured degree of support or "beta" is not IRRESPONSIBLE and is necessary for the stability of an LTR, and will increase the quality of living for all involved.

Beta tempers alpha, the degree to which it should temper the alpha should be what you would conclude makes the best (and, ideally, most functional) leader, boyfriend, husband, and/or father- whatever your goal happens to be.