My first quasi-date. Didn't understand any of her behavior.

[deleted] · 2013-10-04T14:21:54+00:00

There is a difference between being Red Pill and being a dick.

Look. Be stoic, be logical, be calm, know what you want and be unapologetic about it. Don't be an asshole about it.

For example.

She asks you to take her picture, instead of saying "no", say "sure", then take a picture zoomed in on her tits and hand the phone back to her. That is playful and interesting and funny. Who the fuck wants to hang out with "Mr. No" all night?

She wants to go to an erotic cinema (I assume this is a sex toy store?)...why would you say no? Go. It would have turned her on. OR, you could go, but use it as an excuse to tease her. Hand her the biggest dildo you can find and say "with your experience, I'm sure you can handle this no problem".....If it is an erotic movie theater (not a sex store) she is basically asking to fuck. Why say no? Say something like "First we do what I need to do (the event), then...if you're a good girl...we can do what you want."

Again, a lot of Red Pillers falsely think acting "Red Pill" means acting like a dick.

You should still be an INTERESTING guy to be with. You should be calm, confident, know what you want and frankly, chivalrous. RPers think chivalry is putting pussy on a pedestal. Well, I for one DO put pussy on a pedestal, it's just a pedestal that is still lower than my self worth pedestal. But I open doors for chicks. Why? Because she's MINE and I am guiding her through the world. When she passes through the doorway, I place my hand on the small of her back or gently slap her ass. THAT is doing real man, confident Alpha shit - saying "no" to every-goddamn-thing a woman wants to do (a woman who is doing YOU a favor, by the way) isn't.

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Pushnikov · 2013-10-04T16:03:19+00:00

I'm having a hard time getting over your "first" date being, in what appears to be, relatively into your 20's. Virginity, fine - no problem. But your first date?

Frankly, just go on dates to go on dates. In fact, go with whomever will go on a date that is remotely interesting. Hell remotely UNINTERESTING. You might be surprised by people.

Go into them saying, you don't WANT to lose your virginity. That's the best thing at your stage. Don't worry or stress or put any girl on a pedestal, no matter how hot or cute or dumb she is.

You need to get out there with girls more. You need to take charge more of the situation. This date should've been a chance to practice - but because you're playing late in the game you're trying to learn the curve before you can manage the curve. ESPECIALLY since you're not attracted to her, you should play things up and get comfortable, so that when you find something that gets you excited, you're playing serious.

EDIT: You're clearly fixated on your virginity. #1, noone really cares. #2, don't tell a chick that. #3, losing your virginity is probably better done with someone who you won't care if you fuck up with, because you will. It takes practice. Ideally, you also find someone who is willing to experiment and be playful early (not necessarily for your first) so that you can try shit out.

gurglemel · 2013-10-04T13:36:43+00:00

1st of all - work on your alphabet, man.

This chick seemed to want the dick so bad that I'm having hard time telling apart the shit tests and weak attempts to establish sexual frame with you.

Let's share this, it'll be more romantic

Take a picture of us

Take a picture of me

Would normally say they're compliance tests but this reeks of her marking her territory.

some guy hitting on her

solipsism + preselection won't demonstrate your value, honey. Not for women.

then rejected her

I'm at loss why one would disqualify HERSELF but it probably may have been a test if you'd go all "OH WHY, U SO PRETTY" on her. In this stories context I'd call this an ante-shit test cause it's followed by a few classical ones:

Asked if she was attractive. Said yes.

Critical fail. Never give a straight answer.

Asked me to rate her. Said I don't rate girls, but if I had to, 5.5.

Insert neg/tease of any kind. Stop with your PC straight answer bullshit, when women wanted that they'd go on a job interview.

e) Asked if I'd date her. I said I wouldn't know. But I wouldn't.

Too lethargic. "Date? Fuck no, I want to marry your ass, this instant!"

Be un-pc and out of line if you have to.

Don't know what's with your mentality of finding airheads DISGUSTING though. It's good to have standards but if I'd be faced with losing my V card to an average airhead I'd just go for it. I'm pretty sure she wouldn't enforce her socialist views onto me whilst fucking her into a wall.

edit- about the birthday party thing...

Either she really wants to show you off to her friends, since you'd be the only guy there... or take you as a gay/orbiter best friend. And since she's a 6 to 6.5 in your book, I don't think her liking you wouldn't trigger much preselection in her possibly hotter friends, and since you're not that experienced with women(first quasi date) you wouldn't manage to score thanks to the synergetic slut shame blocking your path.

browndelicious · 2013-10-04T16:43:11+00:00

There is no replacement for direct, firsthand experience. You can read up on TRP theory and field reports all you want. Without direct, first-hand experience, it will be difficult to filter the signal from the noise. You can't become a master by reading up on it.

What you need is experience, son. Lots of it.

Here's a little secret for you. Make your priority having fun and stop over analyzing everything.

2013-10-05T00:24:26+00:00

Seriously? Wrap it up and hit that. She sounds like she's good in bed.

Your virginity isn't that valuable. Lose it

gurglemel · 2013-10-06T11:41:16+00:00

She's some kind of socialist, anti-capitalist whatever. Insecure. Not highly intelligent. Childlike

Why are you bothering?

Title	My first quasi-date. Didn't understand any of her behavior.
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Date	October 4, 2013 12:54 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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