[FR] Be a nice guy with attitude

bogeyd6 · 2018-07-08T04:33:26+00:00

Everyone else is going to tear you apart for this FR, but know that I look back in awe at one simple concept.

I'm regularly fucking up, having to go back to basics, check what I'm missing, reset, do better, continue

Keep doing this, only this, as long as you move the ball forward all other things become noise.

sadomasochrist · 2018-07-07T12:51:03+00:00

You have it backwards. You're engaging in male solipsism. Your perfect wife is 60\40 wife\whore, because stability is a greater asset to a man to ensure sexual supply. Women will tolerate a much, much larger tilt towards what is sexually exciting, so in the other direction.

She wants a monster that will treat her nicely, when he wants, when it makes sense, in the right way. Which right now you're not capable of doing any of this right, which is okay.

This advice is impossible to follow right now because you're not outcome independent and in your own frame. And frankly, you don't seem to have the congruence necessary to pull this gambit off.

Personally I can differentiate between "being nice" and "being mr nice". I guess I am saying don't be a walk over, but don't be a dick either.

So yeah, you've exited codependence, but you've got miles to go. This is one of the more problematic posts I've seen in a while, from a male perspective.

THAT BEING SAID, it seems like she's responding just fine, so I'd say you're in a good spot despite you being weak. I think if you listen to the other more seasoned MRP guys here and take their advice slowly you'll be a success story here.

But man, grow a pair of balls. This is hard to read.

SteelSharpensSteel · 2018-07-07T11:33:12+00:00

Don't be a nice guy.

Pinkhoo · 2018-07-10T03:26:27+00:00

Find someone who loves you. The way you are. Stop fighting. Find a kind person and be a kind person. Nothing else will make you happy.

Title	[FR] Be a nice guy with attitude
Author	iamuser5000
Upvotes	36
Comments	25
Date	July 7, 2018 10:28 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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