Where to start

wildnight98 · 2017-12-26T17:21:48+00:00

It’s cool I am able to give you this gift. It’s going to change your life. When I first came here in desperation, I had no idea what the sidebar was either. Everybody kept telling me to read it. I was like WTF, I must be a complete idiot.

Like me, you are probably using a phone or pad Reddit app. Otherwise the sidebar would be really obvious (the list of links on the right hand side of the main web page for this subreddit).

In the app, you need to go to the three little dots (“...”) and choose “Community Info.” You will find the “sidebar” there. Welcome!

Flagfootball99 · 2017-12-26T17:44:11+00:00

Read: married man sex life primer (mmslp) first by Athol Kay.

cholomite · 2017-12-26T18:28:44+00:00

I'll give you credit for one thing, this post is all about you, which is exactly how it should be. Too many guys come here blaming their wives and everyone else for their problems. The "she" to "I" ratio in the post was refreshing as fuck. So in that regard you're starting off better than a lot of guys.

Honestly, you sound depressed as fuck. I'm not a mental health doctor or a therapist, but when I'm depressed nothing makes me feel better than to go to the gym, put my headphones on, forget about the world and just pick up heavy shit. Forget about waiting for motivation, it will never come. You seem to be living like an empty husk of a man, which is unfortunate because that empty husk is the product of millions of years of evolution, honed through the trials and tribulations of your ancestors to near perfection, and you're letting it go to shit because you're a little bummed out right now.

I'm not trying to give you too much shit, I honestly know what you're going through, and I'm sure a lot of other guys here do as well. There's no easy answer or quick fix, just start putting yourself first from now on. When you start to respect yourself, everyone else will begin to respect you too. Hell, I don't care if you have to stand in the corner of the gym and do jazzercise with the pink 2lb weights, just do fucking something to improve yourself from yesterday.

Go do something to improve yourself, and maybe pick up a new shirt while you're out. Your wife will not die if you don't iron her clothes tonight.

EveryGodDamnDay · 2017-12-26T18:03:54+00:00

Your post reads like a template for a lot of the guys who find themselves here. So you're in the right place to work hard with guys who have an idea where you're coming from and will call bullshit when they see it. Sidebar has your guide for beginners, and acronyms in the wiki.

Start lifting. Then start reading.

wadearave · 2017-12-26T18:26:38+00:00

If you’re curious about anything throw the term into google followed by “red pill” and it will pop up.

There is a lot of information to consume and it’s easy (this is what I did) to intellectualize and think you’re making progress. Start taking action. I thought myself into a corner and it wasn’t until I started doing things consistently for 3+ weeks that things started to improve and my eyes really opened to the matrix.

You’re in the right place.

SorcererKing · 2017-12-26T18:54:26+00:00

Hit the sidebar. There is a list of acronyms, a Beginner's Guide, and so so much more. Removing this now from the sub as it offers little value. Good luck.

DayHofMan · 2017-12-26T19:40:52+00:00

Get out of the house. You need to get out when the wife is training or with running friends. Staying at home alone is one of the worst things to do when your in a funk. Lifting should be your first hobby, go to the gym. Then find anything your remotely interested in and find a group to join. Don’t be scared to talk to people.

Title	Where to start
Author	xparmm
Upvotes	2
Comments	12
Date	December 26, 2017 5:09 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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