Married, crushing on younger girl. Need MRP's help.

Rian_Stone · 2017-10-16T13:18:18+00:00

Assuming you're not a troll, basic questions to askmrp.

EGOtyst · 2017-10-16T12:24:05+00:00

You aren't in the head space to cheat.

Best code is ignore, man up, and make a hard decision to hat quit.

Second best is to game it into a threesome, since your wife us down.

Worst option is to cheat, ruin your lif marriage and hate yourself.

soskrood · 2017-10-16T12:49:21+00:00

As far as I can tell, you have 3 options.

Continue on, keep it secret, likely to result in an affair and a huge blow up / destruction of life as you know it, or at the least some hurt feelings and lots of drama when (not if) your wife finds out.
Cut off the snap chat and all social media this chick is on. Get a new hobby, stay away from anywhere she might be.
Put your cards on the table, tell your wife, see if you can get her to tap into her bi-side for a nsa 3-way.

Option 1 seems bad. Option 3 is a fantasy. Whether you tell your wife about the attraction depends on your history with her (is she likely to be angry at you because you are biologically programmed to be attracted to fertile women?). If you do tell her, then option 2 is still on the table but there might be more drama. Of course, without telling her then option 3 is off the table entirely.

Problem is I'm starting to catch feeling for this young ass girl and I have no reason to other than my male DNA. I am definitely putting this girl on a pedestal which isn't fair to my wife. I realize this. I have no reason to feel this way. I still love my wife, and I'm attracted to her but I do look at other women. I sometimes wonder if we are meant to be tied down to one person for all eternity.

Congrats, you are a man. Never apologize for being a man and asking these questions.

However, part of being a man is acting with wisdom. The choices you make will affect your life, your family, your kids life (possibly for decades). Statistically kids from 2 parent households have a much higher chance at success in life.

When in doubt, speak the truth. It may be unpleasant, but the truth has the capacity to strengthen that lies do not. Own your shit.

zeteomegaleio · 2017-10-16T12:30:29+00:00

Dear diary, I allowed myself to focus on another girl than my wife for so long that I started getting feelings for her. I kept taking actions to build attraction and tension up with this woman over 6 weeks. Now I'm existential about monogamy and wondering why I feel this way about her as if it came out of nowhere and that I had no hand in it. Damn you feelings, why must you always be so mysterious and hard to figure out?

Aechzen · 2017-10-16T12:24:52+00:00

Jesus Christ dude, kill two birds with one stone.

Propose a threesome with miss cheerleader chic lady and your wife. Chic will probably say no, and then you can move on with your life. But maybe, maybe, she'll be down, and then you won't be cheating because your wife is in the room too.

Stop oneitis-ing somebody you haven't even kissed.

I don't have anything moral against fucking outside your marriage, just keep it quiet if you're going to do that. Strange is a good enough reason in my opinion.

Aaren_Augustine · 2017-10-16T13:00:13+00:00

Dear MRP, why am I an alpha monster beta orbiter?

Upstate33 · 2017-10-16T13:09:07+00:00

RP for 5 years but has no idea what to do when he catches onitis for a girl who, by no mention in the post, even returns any interest in him. Troll.

Upstate33 · 2017-10-16T13:18:26+00:00

I may have also omitted we were all at a club and she was sitting next to me and it was ass grab a thon 2017. Bad idea #46, I know.

Title	Married, crushing on younger girl. Need MRP's help.
Author	Upstate33
Upvotes	0
Comments	17
Date	October 16, 2017 12:17 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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