I've seen a lot of discussion about harpy/bitchy/cunty wives and their origin. Did they start out that way or did the lack of strong, masculine leadership bring out their worst qualities. I think the general consensus on MRP is that the lack of a strong man is the cause. And I generally agree with that statement. We can't control how our wives act and so we can only change that which we have control of-- ourselves. I hope to generate some discussion over this topic as a lot of guys come in here, get told that they're bitches, and "of course their wives act that way".

Field Report: I've been doing MRP since June of last year. I was on the brink of divorce and had even called a suicide hotline. I started lifting, gained control over my emotions, mastered STFU, and life has improved. I was a total victim in every facet of my life.

Last night my wife, unprompted, told me "I was a total bitch for the first few years. I'm sorry you had to deal with me."

Here's the thing-- she WAS a total bitch a good deal of the time. So was I. I married her because I thought I didn't have any better options. It wasn't until I stopped fighting with her and learning to deflect shit tests that she was able to calm down. I took control of the treasury, not because we were in dire straits, but because I wanted to lead and not follow. I got a plan to pay off our student loans and mortgage by the time we're 40. I gave her the aggressive sex she craved. Hell, she begs me for sex now. I honored promises and kept my commitments. Mostly, I stopped whining about how life was unfair.

Now, she's not always a submissive doting wife, but she's come a far way. When we got married she would blow up and cry and whine every other day. Even when dating, she could be bitchy. I thought that every girl was like that so I wifed her up anyway. But she was also very sweet and kind half the time. Jekyll and Hyde stuff. Now she is more calm and sweet than she is bitchy.

I believe that we can create the conditions to bring out the best in our wives because I've seen both sides. We can't change them into something they're not.

So are they bitches because of us? Maybe. But we'll never know what they can become unless we kill our beta bitch selves. This is about so much more than sex. This is about becoming successful MEN.