How to Change Bitchy Attitude and Make My Wife "Nicer"?

innominating · 2016-12-16T12:51:52+00:00

Lol.

The only thing you can change is yourself.

How can you be lean now? You can't, it takes time to dial in macros. How can you be strong now? You can't it takes years to build muscle. How can you be charming now? You can't it takes a while to internalize and practice game.

The only thing you can do quick is get a haircut and learn to STFU.

Griever114 · 2016-12-16T13:30:39+00:00

As others have said, you cant change her. You can only change you.

Remember, our main form of currency is: time and affection. Theirs is sex. Thats it.

I have learned (painfully) that being around toxic people will fuck my shit up. Start removing yourself when she is being a toxic bitch.

At first she will question why, but as its mentioned time and time here, "you are a busy guy." Kiss on the forehead and bail.

That being said. If it gets to the main event and she gets super bitchy,

"Why the fuck would I want to spend time with a nasty ass toxic bitch?"

Mic drop, and walk the fuck out.

I've had this exact shit happen to me. I froze out the SO for an entire week because she was being a PITA and frankly, I have enough on my plate. You may hear, "be the oak." But IMHO, I will only be the OAK when she has he fucking claws retracted. I give her one chance for me to be nice. IF i get her mean card, guess what, peace out bitches.

Ive been confronted before and i drop the simple line of, "why the hell should i comfort you when you go on a tirade about how everyone is against you and you start the nagging. I dont have time for this shit and frankly, im not putting up with it."

Sure enough, she will come apologizing and status quo is reset.

Sklavenmoral · 2016-12-16T13:39:29+00:00

Here's what worked for me. My wife went from hating my guts to all over me again...

1) Started eating right a couple years ago and lost 70 lbs. 2) Stopped catering to her and enabling her to leech off me and my desire to serve. 3) Developed an abundance mentality incidentally from all the new attention I received from women.

That was the trifecta for me. There is no quick fix. I tried every quick fix along the way. This is what worked.

An addendum... I think it's easy to conflate TRP with acting like a shit-head and being an asshole, because if you're not a discerning reader it can come off that way. Happily do your own thing. "Happily" being just as big a part of that sentence as the "do your own thing".

[deleted] · 2016-12-16T12:47:10+00:00

You don't.

The only person you control is you.

This is a basic tenant.

There's no quick fix.

bogeyd6 · 2016-12-16T14:00:44+00:00

This is the faggot post of the year, congrats, just barely made it!

But the quickest way, give her a man who doesn't put up with her shit.

redearththeory · 2016-12-16T13:41:11+00:00

How do I change her bitchy attitude right now?

If she's not pleasant company, leave and go be around someone else. Tell her you are not enjoying her company (with a smile), shrug, walk out the door, go something else for 3 hours, try again. See how many times you have to do that before she gets it. Still one of the best shit test responses out there.

Aaren_Augustine · 2016-12-16T13:14:40+00:00

You can't. You can only change how you react to it, and the results are in. You don't react. Given long enough, she'll see she can't push you around. You won't be able to influence her by telling her shit.

So lets see what we've got about changing your wife's behavior - You can't, you don't, you won't.

gettingmymojoback · 2016-12-16T13:17:26+00:00

You can't, so don't try. You control your emotions, not hers.

As you practice OI and actually internalize NGAF her bitchy behavior will bother you less and less. You stop feeding her emotional spiral downward by refusing to engage in it. STFU is your first step in this.

There's a definite positive energy shift that takes place when you finally stop giving a fuck what her emotions are and instead decide to just be happy. Wife bitching - STFU be happy. Wife having a bad day -comfort, STFU, be happy.

Guess what, not getting caught up in her mood swings and remaining unaffected removes any reward for her to "take it out on you". Remove the reward if you want to correct the behavior.

My wife started on a downward spiral of pointless complaining that only got progressively more and more negative, at first I sat and listened intently while STFU, then after seeing where it heading I interrupted to ask her if it was Festivis today? Why she asks? I replied, "if we're going to be airing our grievances we should at least set the pole up so I can have a turn too", smirked, gave her a kiss on the cheek, and her mood instantly changed from sour grapes to mildly annoyed to laughter.

Stop taking her so seriously and have some fun.

drty_pr · 2016-12-16T13:45:50+00:00

First off this should be on r/askMRP. Secondly, women aren't "nice" man.

Do you really want a woman who says "please" and "thank you" all the time? Or do you wanta woman who says "look at that fat bitch walking down the street. What the fuck is going through her mind when she puts those pants on and thinks that looks good?". I like the later myself.

As long as she is nice to me, I could care less. You need to be a guy thats worth being nice too.

BluepillProfessor · 2016-12-16T18:50:00+00:00

How do I change her bitchy attitude right now?

I would order her to stop and order her to have a good attitude. Sarge and take charge if you want it NOW.

It could work. Or not.

What would you do with your bratty 11 year old daughter? Let her bitch for a few minutes and then redirect her, maybe with a piece of candy, then tease her about her sour puss freezing in place like that forever if she doesn't cheer up. Come on sweety, scratch your mad spot and get glad and we can go for ice cream later. If she continues raging ignore her. Rinse, repeat, until she laughs.

This works very well if you have increased your value but may not work as a short cut.

Title	How to Change Bitchy Attitude and Make My Wife "Nicer"?
Author	JeanLucTrumpard
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Date	December 16, 2016 12:36 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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