Background:

I've been implementing MRP for about three months now. You can find more background here: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3uwfst/direction_needed/

I have seen tremendous improvement in life, love, sex, and health. Gentlemen, MRP has been amazing. Thank you for your participation.

Of course, I am human, and as such, I have an incomplete understanding of some concepts and I just fuck up sometimes. That being said, I am much happier post MRP. My wife is acting much, much happier. Things are good.

Sex has resumed every other day. I have some work to do leading her to the type of sex I want, but there is improvement. Without prompt, Wifey put on lingerie last night for the first time since kids. Of course, I liked that, and I told her so.

Previous Compliance Test: The more effort Wifey puts into sex, the more the compliance/shit tests I am getting. About two weeks ago, right around her ovulation, I had been building sexual tension with her all day with eye contact, kino, etc. We were having a nice dinner. I finished and got up with my plate and put it in the sink. As I am walking away from the sink, she says "take my plate the to the sink, please." The table is about fifteen feet away and I'm already walking the opposite direction. In my BP days I would have jumped to grab her plate, since it appeared I was getting pussy that night, and I wouldn't have wanted to ruin my chance. Instead, I said "no thanks" and went and got some shit done.

About an hour later, I isolated and escalated and she is throwing out some LMR and I am pushing through without any issue. We are heating up, then, she says "nothing is happening until you apologize for not taking my plate to the sink." I just smirk and proceed. She says something like, I want to know why you didn't take my plate to the sink. I STFU and push through kissing her more and she says, you won't do any favors for me, so I'm not doing any favors for you, until you apologize. I stop escalating and say "suit yourself" with a smirk.

She got angry and removed herself to the guest bedroom. In the past, this the trigger for me to chase her, beg forgiveness and get shitty sex that she controls. I was honestly OI, so I didn't chase. I read a little and went to bed.

She was ice queen for two days through ovulation. I held happy, busy frame, and eventually opened her up and never spoke of it. Sex resumed. No more compliance tests. Until last night.

Last Night's Compliance Test: I woke up yesterday initiating sex with kino, etc. Later that night, the kids are down and I am doing some work and she comes over. I grab her ass, kiss her a little and, since she had been at the gym, I tell her to go get cleaned up for me. She giggles. She takes a bath and a few minutes later comes out and says when you come in bring me an ice water. I STFU. Now, I honestly don't have a problem getting her water. But, she never asks for this stuff until right before sex. It is such a clear white knight, compliance test. I don't know if she is doing it consciously, or subconsciously, but she really wants to control sex and wants me to have to fight for the pussy.

I considered my options and decided to get the water and do the whole thing where I get down on my knee and say, "may I present your water your royal highness." She laughed a little and called me jerk and we had decent sex. But, I think the sex may have been only decent because I complied.

Questions:

  1. How should I have responded differently?

  2. Will this shit stop at some point when/if my SMV is significantly greater than hers?

  3. Is this even a big deal? The first time she went ice queen on me for two days and that meant three days of no sex, which sucked. The second time I AA'd and I feel like we had shitty sex because I complied. Does compliance, even through AA, lead to shitty sex?