Lessons Learned and self reminders of Roja (helpful if you are new to MRP)

1- Be confident; You are the prize, invest and honestly care about yourself, nobody is going to love you or care more about your happiness than yourself, I love myself (useful mantra). (see book of pook for more in self worth and confidence); in the meantime until you develop your self esteem visualize yourself as the person that you wish to be, behave as if you have already the physical, mental and characteristics of your ideal self (NLP). (MMSL, Book of pook, )

2-You cannot control your wife; nor her sexual desires, her thoughts, you can only control yourself and hence doing changes that can influence things in the way you want, whether it happens to go your way or not is beyond your control. With the changes you will be more attractive to the opposite gender and hopefully your wife if things are beyond repair.

3-- Make decisions for you and your family, be firm and don’t be a doormat for anyone. Don’t tolerate disrespect (state in a calm and assertive way that this will not be tolerated) Be strong and assertive (tell what you want and don’t tiptoe around or asking in a supplicating or weakling way) - Having said so, don't be stupid and engage in street fights and get your ass kick or lose your job because you won't take shiite from your boss, be smart about it (utilize principles on 48 Laws of Power).

Decisions may and will be wrong sometimes but own your shit and is ok to be wrong or change your mind if you are presented with facts (not emotions or feels) that change your perspective; let others to convince you or present the options and then you choose or compromise as need be. Is ok to say you will think and give an answer later with time or after more information is available. (NMMNG and WISNIFG on more of this)

4-Don’t complain or whine; Specially to your first officer, make your effort appears easy. They don’t care if you had a bad day or if you have insecurities about your job, only lower your status in their eyes and cause them anxiety (will he be able to protect me or provide for me any longer?). If you absolutely need to vent call a male friend likeminded and go out to do manly things.

5-Stop caring if she gets mad at you, asking what she wants, seeking her approval or being paranoid whether she likes or dislike how you speak, behave, or do. She is not your mother and you need to do what you feel is right and needed to do, you can keep her informed (going out to golf ) but is different asking for permission or approval vs letting her know. You are a adult, hopefully employed and with the right to have a life, friends, hobbies outside of her existence. Getting rid of covert contracts and doing things because you want to do it or you think are the Captain duty to do instead of expecting attention, adoration or rewards of validation sexual or otherwise.

6-Stop Talking so much (STFU) about the relationship, about your concerns about life and other miracles, about sex (do not negotiate or bargain for sex it only give her more power and lower your status; practice OI), do not engage the Hamster since rationalization is futile, ACTA NON VERBA, you are in a journey of becoming the best man you can and it will be in her benefit, your family and everybody around you.

7-She will notice changes and when she does and ask let her imagination work for you and if confronted you can mention you are improving physically and mentally to become a better and healthier person (if already have it you can show her red herring books like Gorilla mindset or Body for life that will explain self improvement sans the sexual strategy angle) but mystery bring dread and too much familiarity bring contempt.

8-Under no circumstances even under torture bring TRP, MRP, MMSL or “ I am reading stuff in how to become a real man” to any discussion or conversation; She wants you to “Get it” that she wants a leader, a captain and all the magic will be gone if you show her the magician trick.

9-Being dominant, masculine and a leader doesn’t mean yell her to submission or being a jerk, if you had been out of the Captain Chair for a while and realize your shortcomings remember is your fault and she resent you for having to run the ship while you were drunk in blue pills, reestablish your command slowly showing her Calm assertiveness and no coming blazing into the cockpit, remember it will take probably a month for each year of marriage for you to get back on track.

10-Be the OAK; Confident, Strong (mentally, physically and emotionally) going full alpha without some comfort is not conducive of a good marriage/ LTR, give her the tingles but lack of comfort drives her away. The OAK is Balanced with Alpha traits but )also has comfort, security and provides. Most of us in MRP were lacking in alpha and drowning in Beta just keep adapting according to needs. Captain Kirk (in the original Star Trek comes to mind) He was focused on the mission, alpha, confident but also protective of the ship and its Crew.

11-Time /Attention is your more precious commodity use wisely and don’t allow people to abuse it neither you give it away for nothing. is a non renewable resource. Stop watching garbage TV, Netflix or WEB that is not conducive of your mission; (I watch pre 1970s stuff since after taking the RP I can not stand modern shows trying to run BP program ) Your mission is the most important thing, respect your time, so read good material that help you in your mission, do physical stuff in your time (LIFT, LIFT, LIFT) and acquire hobbies that are interesting and /or manly, Have a life for pete sakes, if your life consist of work, tv and Facebook no wonder she or anyone will find you boring.

12-Get some (Manly) hobbies (even Geocaching for pete sakes will get you out of the house, walking looking for stuff in adventurous places and being interesting). Martial Arts, Mountain biking, etc. will get you out of her face and doing outdoor stuff with new social opportunities. Having fun with or without her.

13- Game; Your social life and your wife attention and interest will benefit tons from improving your game; Your wife is a girl after all, and gaming your wife is one of the best things you can do together with lifting and improving your positive masculinity to regain and keep your relationship with her or passive dread. Be social, engage in conversation with everybody you encounter, give you social proof.

13 a. Learn Shit tests because she will test to see if you are congruent with your new persona or still the sappless beta she knows. Prepare for the main event ; see main event post(Nuclear Shitstorm when she realize you are taking the Captain Seat) or the TEST (see MMSL) (temptation from other women noticing that you are attractive/ alpha, steady on the helm captain, do not lose sight of your goal)

14-Take TRP main subreddit with a grain of salt; take what you need and leave what you disagree or don’t need, remember there is 3 “factions” ; 1)The Plate spinners (mostly young guys that are maximizing their opportunities for sexual strategies) ; 2) The MRP/LTR ; that will be us, concentrating in being the best man we can be and using RP strategies to hopefully curb hypergamy by combining Alpha/ comfort 3)MGTOWs; Concentrating in themselves and opting out of the Matrix by not engaging since the game is rigged.

They all have a different flavor and angle, you can learn from all and remember that neither is the “essence of RP” so some posts are helpful others are garbage and borderline trolling for shock value, also generalizations and exaggerations abound, the same way a medication has different effects in different patient, the pill effects are personal. Don’t take every thing said as absolute, take and leave.

TL; DR Hopefully some of my self-notes help you to get a perspective since I know that when you first come without any knowledge the Pill and sidebar can appear Overwhelming.

MRP Works, you have to be patient and do the legwork LIFT and SIDEBAR (yes is that important!!!)———>>>>>> That will force you to internalize all the knowledge, all books and resources cited have an angle to better you, yes is a lot of reading and you might wonder what is the point, (like the techniques of Mr Miyagi in Karate Kid, is easier for you to read and internalize than to be explained). When done keep reading from time to time to drive the concepts home. Don’t stop growing, you will never get to relax and “be yourself” ; the best defense is always be on the offensive. The day the Alpha lion relax and chills he loses the pride.

There is a LOT of WISDOM in the moderators comments, place special attention in what they have to say in comments.

Also for us more mentally mature in life and education; The Writings of Rollo and Illimitable Men give plenty of rational and logical organization of Pill teachings.

ARE YOU READY TO GET SERIOUS ?