my wife told me to look into redpill handbook, my tactics backfired?

Rasalom72 · 2015-09-29T15:13:03+00:00

Victim puke. Fine, get it out of your system and start making improvements.

Look at what your wife is DOING... not what she is SAYING. She moved out. For her, this is over. She is probably already banging the guy from work. You need to make yourself the priority here. If she really wanted to work on it, she would not have left home. Take this for what it is and change the locks.

Go see a lawyer and get your financials in order so she doesn't take you to the cleaners in a divorce. You can bet your ass that she has already seen one (and probably months ago).

Other then all that, if you want to try to salvage this, you need to focus on reading the side bar, and making yourself into the man you should be. If this is the second time you've had a woman cheat on you, IT'S NOT THEM... IT'S YOU!

You let this happen, and you have to man up and own that. You fucked up. Own it and move forward. You're wife sent you here, and then left.... she wants AF, and you're not it.

[deleted] · 2015-09-29T15:13:10+00:00

I'm open to all your ideas, just please no personal attacks.

Don't be a pussy, accept that you said this because you knew the problem was you.

You're pathetic and your lady wants a real Man. What you should do is completely shut the fuck up for a few, remove your ego, then reassess your situation.

Have you read any of the posts on this subreddit or the main one? The books? The Blogs?

BluepillProfessor · 2015-09-29T15:15:19+00:00

I was still a very stubborn alpha. I spoke my mind, if I wanted time to play video games

You think it is Alpha to demand video game time from your mommy/wife? Think again.

I became super submissive and a conflict-avoiding people pleaser

Ah yes, Beta Game. The "Game" espoused by all of society, all of the media, and ALL women that you will ever meet. The only problem is that ALL of it was a lie. Beta game does not turn on women. Full. Stop.

Obviously the sex ramped right up when you tried this /s.

She comes home and is a totally different rageful person. She's acting narcisstic towards me, saying I have emotional baggage...

Most likely a Shit Test. She is being rageful because of the cognitive dissonance in her little primate brain. It goes like this. Husband is safe Beta. Husband doesn't make me wet. Husband is sweet and kind. Husband is manning up. He doesn't bend and bow and scrape.
Wait, why am I wet? That bastard doesn't have the right to make me wet. He is a Beta Toe Jam. I am woman. Watch me roar. Watch me put him in his place. Wait, now I am dry as a bone. And why am I so irritatted and pissed off? That jerk is such an idiot. I can treat him as bad as I want.

Remember, Tingles Uber Elles.

I've even taken unpaid leave to support her through an eating disorder and other mental things that were going on

Briffault's Law is a real thing.

I think it's time to really go alpha with confidence but not boastfully and within reason.

Great, while you are Alpha-ing up your wife can go fuck her new Beta pet.

Does she want me to go back to my old asshole self or something?

Yes she does except it looks like she is ready to branch swing so immediate action is required.

We haven't spoken since Friday.

I think this is a huge mistake. Athol Kay (MPBUH) says when there is a potential affair partner, the strategy is to KEEP THEM APART. Do NOT go silent if she has another option in the wings.

My advice? Be the Oak. Don't be a wimpy Beta. Don't be an "asshole" Alpha. Be the Oak. Be BOTH. I would go to her and tell her this is ridiculous. Tell me what you are feeling. THEN STFU and just nod your head and listen. If she gets out of line, gently correct her as you would a child. "Sweetheart, let's not use that tone."

Ultimately she has to choose between the Husband she knows is improving and the comfort and tingles she is getting from somebody else. Your task is to not make that an easy selection.

whinemoreplease · 2015-09-29T15:41:07+00:00

Man, OP just comes in and drops a steaming pile of shit.

dandar4600 · 2015-09-29T15:31:57+00:00

She gave you the red pill hand book. You only half-heartedly bought into it. She gave up on you.

You need to read the three prerequisite books from the sidebar. You need to read them yesterday. Drop everything you're doing and get reading. Start with No More Mr Nice Guy, follow with Married man sex life primer and finish with When I say no I feel guilty.

Eat right. Lift weights at least 3 times a week. Start lifting today. Don't wait till you're done with the books. Load them in Kindle on your phone and read between the sets if you have to.

Keep up with personal grooming. Dress well. It will take your body some time to show the results, but in the mean time you need to walk balls first (read upright) talk with confidence, recognize and pass shit tests. Maintain your frame.

Read up on shit tests and frame by searching for those posts here on MRP.

Frankly your wife may at this point be a lost cause. She gave you the red pill handbook as a last ditch effort because she was falling for an alpha. Sounds to me like she doesn't want to wait any longer.

Archwinger · 2015-09-29T16:48:33+00:00

When a woman resorts to overt communication, it's because she's already done the legwork preparing for the fallout.

Trust me on this: Your wife has already met with a lawyer - probably a few times - gotten the paperwork drawn up, has a strategy ready, and has the guy on speed-dial. Someone might be on the way to serve you papers right now.

Your wife has already lined up her next man. Probably already cheated, but if not, she's solidified the opportunity. Even if she hasn't fucked him, she's flirted, touched, and planned the encounter right up to the part where she takes his dick inside one of her holes, and just needs to move the last of her shit out and speed-dial her lawyer real quick so it's not technically cheating.

Your wife has already lined up the support of friends and family and gotten her support network in place for the planned divorce and/or infidelity. Any mutual friends of yours and most of your family already know her version of what's up and are going to side with her the moment the shit hits the fan.

She's raised the skull and crossbones and is giving you overt communication because she's ready. She doesn't have to worry about what you think any more. She doesn't care what you think or how you feel. She knows she has you with your pants down, she has all the cards, and she's in prime position to blow up your world, and you haven't done squat to get ready. So she can be completely overt with you without giving a fuck what you think or whether you stay or go, because she's ready.

walkingthelinux · 2015-09-29T17:41:44+00:00

How is it your wife's business if you beat off? What the fuck is wrong with you?

[deleted] · 2015-09-29T15:28:20+00:00

can we move this to the appropriate location?

cholomite · 2015-09-29T16:08:14+00:00

Tough spot. Hopefully this post got all the winy pussy bullshit out of your system. No personal attacks from stangers on the internet? Come on man, you need to be strong enough to not cry about someone insulting you if you want to be the strong solid oak your wife wants you to be. Toughen up and learn to take some shit, it won't kill you.

First thing you need to do is start giving zero fucks about anyone but yourself. You do this by shoring up things in your own life that your wife could possibly try to take from you. See a lawyer and get your finances in order so you're prepared for a divorce, even if divorce is the last thing you want. You need to get your swagger back and you won't be able to do that if you're worrying about losing this or that to your wife. Once you get complete control of all of the variables in your life, you need to take some time to "find yourself." You sound like you have a lot of issues and depend way too much on your wife for your own happiness. Take a good amount of time to reevaluate what you want from life. Figure out what you need to do to get there. It will probably involve working out, meditating, (don't overlook meditating and replace it with prayer. Theyre two different things and ive known religious people who disregard it as against their beliefs but theyre just mental exercises that help to clear your mind. Based on the length of your post it seems like you have a lot on your mind), exploring new hobbies or adventures, meeting new and different people. You need to focus on becoming more selfish. I know it's frowned upon, especially in the religious community, but for your own mental health, just stop giving a shit for awhile and work on you. Being selfish doesn't mean you're actively fucking over other people for your own gain, it just means you're not going to let others take advantage or use you for their own gain. Being selfish is not inherently bad. I was raised to be very selfless, so putting myself first was hard, but I've learned by putting myself first, I have more left over to give to others. Again, stop giving a fuck. Your wife wants to leave you? OK that's cool, I'm gonna go lift. Your wife wants to work things out? OK that's cool, I'm gonna go lift. You can't control your wife. The only person you can control is yourself. Read the sidebar on here and the main sub. Good luck man.

hva_vet · 2015-09-29T17:03:45+00:00

Church and video games, the gateway to emasculation and beta. Church is full of shitty marriages. Why is that? Because the pastor is the AMOG and they will spin you into your wife's beta orbiter in no time. I can't think of a bigger blue pill environ than church. Where else does everyone worship at the alter of the sanctity of marriage uber alles. Where else will you find the dogma of cowing to the feels of women more than church? Every attribute of alpha is boiled down and reduced to sinful pride at church. Don't seek alpha there because you will only find beta.

[deleted] · 2015-09-29T16:03:54+00:00

Write us a fucking book next time.

Title	my wife told me to look into redpill handbook, my tactics backfired?
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Date	September 29, 2015 2:56 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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