A brief background:
- Married 15 years with three kids.
- I make around $140,000 per year.
- I found TRP around January and am in-process of digesting it.
- Bedroom has dramatically declined since January.
- Sex averages once per month or less.
- We have done marriage counseling and individual counseling.
- We swing - but always together.
I had the typical BB marriage that so many guys fall into after marriage. I knew something was wrong, but couldn’t identify it until finding TRP.
My frame has been growing stronger and stronger over 6 months. Unfortunately, anything that does not go her way she feels is an attack – or she claims I am emotionally abusive.
She declined sex again yesterday and is constantly distant.
She signed up for an event. I am sure she will want me to go with her. I don’t want to go but I know that doesn’t matter - I need to maintain an alpha frame regardless of my feels.
What are the experienced Red Pill thoughts on me going to the event?
I expect some push back from the swing thing – Obviously I have left out a bunch of details to avoid a wall of text. If you have questions just ask.
UPDATE based upon some questions: I found TRP in January/February. I started working on frame and identifying shit tests. I have been adding more and more TRP to my life. I screw up on occasion and if it's something I messed up - I apologize to my wife, but only for the part that I messed up.
UPDATE -- It turns out she is not really concerned if I go to the event. Shit test I guess.
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