Shit Test Guidance

RBuddDwyer · 2015-02-12T02:44:11+00:00

That's not really agree and amplify as you are giving her too much credit by saying she is turning you on. I would just say, "yes, yes I am," and start grabbing her playfully. When she throws up a hard no, then OI.

Add The Book of Pook to your list. Read it now. Don't worry about SGM until after you are having regular sex. Don't bother with MAP.

crayonsred · 2015-02-12T02:40:39+00:00

"I have to, you turn me on too damn much and I can't think straight when I'm around you (agree and amplify)."

I would amp it up and make it more playful, and continue ignoring.

"What do you mean ignore you? I'm always checking out your ass."

"Aw... is someone getting a little lonely? Come here." [kiss, grab, escalate, then go do something else fun if you don't get what you want]

BluepillProfessor · 2015-02-12T03:51:11+00:00

My plan is to increase the time I ignore her whenever she doesn't put out.

IMHO, I think you do what works and do it more covertly. Why reinvent the wheel and push it? If your strategy has ramped up the sex why add time? I can foresee this turning into a vicious circle that you don't want to get caught in. Your withdrawing attention is not a punishment, it a natural consequence of you not getting what you need from the relationship with your wife.

Your "Agree and Amplify" was fine. The point is to make your interactions all about the sex in part because that way if the sex isn't happening the lack of attention you give her is more congruent.

whinemoreplease · 2015-02-12T04:13:53+00:00

I'd take a different approach from these guys.

"Yeah. I've been doing some other things."

"You haven't been giving me much reason to pay attention to you." --- the issue with this one is that it has to be said completely matter of fact. stoic, not even the hint of whining. if you show any sign that it's an emotional response, you lose.

if she presses, "we're not having sex as much or as good as I'd like, so I'm focusing my efforts on other things."

then she can go harp away for a while as you continue to not be bothered.

agree and amplify is a lot more dismissive. this approach i'm advocating tackles your issues head on. you have to maintain frame, be ambivalent and slightly disappointed while remaining unsurprised at her behavior because AWALT.

I'd suggest not giving positive feedback/comments for poor behavior.

Countpudyoola · 2015-02-12T15:49:07+00:00

Knowing her, she will probably continue to not put out here and there just to see what I would do.

Try not to go down this path. You could be undermining and shooting down your own attempts at initiation with this mindset. You've put the sentence on her, but it's still just a different flavor of "She wont want to have sex, so no use in trying".

Try to initiate and escalate (without words), and if it doesn't work out that 1 time, go find something else to do. View them as at-the-moment events. Pattern viewing is helpful in the meta but can hurt you in the micro. Your goal should be to amp her tingles up to where "yes" is a foregone conclusion. Up your PUA skills if what you're doing now still elicits shut downs with ease.

That type of confrontation is best marginalized with a chuckle. "I had other stuff I was planning on doing, I was willing to divert myself with you for a bit, but you're barking up the wrong tree". Really. Don't give a shit.

UEMcGill · 2015-02-12T17:21:15+00:00

Some good points being made. Adding to this, you need to improve your dread game. Use hamster-jujitsu to get your point across.

Give her praise and affection only when she is being positive. "Oh baby I want to fuck you so bad" when she is lovey or gives you a hug. Conversely if she shit tests you on it, "How come all you ever want is sex?" tell her "Baby, you need to worry when I don't"

When she confronted you the best answer would have been "Huh? I didn't notice. Just busy I guess."

The message to deliver to her is "I'm fun! I want to have fun! When you want to have fun, you can be around me. When you don't, I don't."

Finally, if you want sex all the time, you should always be closing! show your wife through your actions that you are a sexual being. But, and this is a big BUT, the second you get to a hard no, move on. No discussion. Get up and leave. Go lift. Roll over and call a bud, what ever. She needs to no that you don't give a fuck that she turned you down. Because that will get her hamster running on over-drive. "if he's not getting it from me why's he out so much? How come he doesn't seem to care?" Let her mind play tricks on her.

Title	Shit Test Guidance
Author	Dinuguan83
Upvotes	1
Comments	9
Date	February 12, 2015 2:35 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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