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2019 plans - underperforming, need to focus.

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December 30, 2018
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Add flair: Acolyte.

Presently: I'm lagging in every area, but there are also real improvements; after 3 years of TRP i should be much better placed than this.

The 'ask' part is asking for any opinions or advice people care to offer. Also, does anyone else feel like "all the other guys are crushing it, why can't I?"

'It' meaning the Red Pill.

Fitness; i go to the gym regular but have not got abs or swole. What the hell am i doing?

I'll implement 90 days monk mode from Jan 1st to correct my diet and fitness.

I'm going for a lean look so I'm taking up mma, it is something i always wanted to do. I will have to let go of weightlifting/ body building since i need to cut fat a lot more than i need bulk. I can train bjj/mma 5 nights a week and I'm committing to be there regularly for the next 12months.

I could post a body shot if it helps but maybe not within this post.

I am learning and implementing r/keto at this time.

Game:- I've made leaps and bounds improvement however my dates are all still in my age range, I'm 40yo at this time. I'm still unable to hit the young women that i would prefer - no kids, more attractive, more available time etc.

Finances:- ugh

I have gone backwards and I'm in credit card debt, with no hope of real wealth in sight.

Options- get a security license and a 2nd job in that field.

Or study finance for the year and start a side business doing bookwork for small business, or simply go into it full-time - it is a better paid industry than construction which is where im stuck right now.

Also - I'm quitting drinking permanently. It simply does not help with energy, fitness, testosterone levels or financially. I can't afford to be dragging that anchor around.

Reading- reading is a key element of trp, i get it done using audiobooks in my car as my static time is so rare. Having said that i need to cut out games to create more productive time.

Yoga- Thursdays. You may laugh but i need to balance the constant masculine parts of my life with some meditation and stretching. Also, hotties. Everywhere.

Sex- game takes time and energy that i presently don't have, it may be simpler to tap a hottie for $200 once in a while. I will never be MGTOW but i respect it's logic, i can use that approach for a time while i refocus.

Last night i dated a 43yo woman who was very pleasant, i tapped her but she didn't look great naked and it cost me $100 or so for the date, and she lives about 45k from my place. Pushing successfully through her lmr was a win for me, in the past i have been too polite and respectful of their wishes and lost some opportunities that way.

My Partner count is presently 30, counting strictly.

The goal of this plan is to be financially stsble and physically fit by 2020, then resume Game when i am happier with myself and life in general.


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Title 2019 plans - underperforming, need to focus.
Author rAFCdadHUSBAND
Upvotes 8
Comments 21
Date 30 December 2018 06:32 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/203708
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/aatku8/2019_plans_underperforming_need_to_focus/
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[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

If your plan is to wait until 2019 - don’t even bother fag. Start today.

“Also, does anyone else feel like "all the other guys are crushing it, why can't I?"”

Do you realize that you’re reading a highlight reel of people’s lives online? Typical woman thinking that everyone else has nice expensive things so why can’t we??

[–]Cam_Winston214 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fitness; i go to the gym regular but have not got abs or swole. What the hell am i doing?

Dude, it takes a long time of dedication, intensity and focus. Not weeks/months.

Visible abs on a man are what is considered the ultimate signal of low body fat. On most guys, they don't start to show until around 12-14 percent, a six pack when in single digits. It varies depending upon where someone's individual fat cells are more efficient. Some guys can have a six pack at 12% (fat stores easier elsewhere), but not most. Some guys in single digits can show abs but can't have a six pack as most of their fat is stored in the stomach area (I can relate), while other areas look ripped.

BTW, it gets harder as you get older.

Swole is muscle mass accumulation. This takes many years, not months. Muscular & swole are somewhat different. Lebron James is muscular, The Rock is swole. This gets easier as you get older as long as you keep lifting.

tl;dr Diet and lift. Then, repeat.

[–]FoxShitNasty833 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like your all over the place, I get that this is a lot of changes all round. Perhaps you need focus, short term achievable goals and a long term vision of where you want to be but get specific.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

does anyone else feel like "all the other guys are crushing it, why can't I?"

Don't worry about what anyone else is doing. Your goal is to be better today than you were yesterday, and to be better still tomorrow.

The goal of this plan is to be financially stsble and physically fit by 2020, then resume Game when i am happier with myself and life in general.

Always be gaming... always. It sounds counterintuitive, but it will be tougher for you to resume next year than it will to just push through right now. By 2020 you'll just have a whole new list of excuses handy to avoid it. Get your game tight now, regardless of what else you have going on, and you'll be living on easy mode once everything else comes into place.

[–]Kpwn882 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I'm going for a lean look.

https://athleanx.com

[–]rAFCdadHUSBAND[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thankyou, looking into it now

[–]DallasKing31412 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

How did you tap a hottie for $200?

[–]rAFCdadHUSBAND[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

'Working Girl'

Escort

[–]Two_kids_in_a_coat2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

I’m confused. This is married red pill, but it reads like you’re single.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

Honestly I'd prefer to be here rather than trp, even if I wasn't married.

[–]Thisismyusername1100[🍰] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

There's a marked difference in "build the man" on MRP vs "fuck the woman" on TRP

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's a definite part, but there's also a lot less of the AMOG posturing that goes on over there. We are each our own group so it's more a meeting among tradesmen and apprentices

[–]robertwservice19742 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

“all the other guys are crushing it, why can’t I?”

You’re not “crushing it” because you’re not focused on yourself. You’re too busy looking at everyone else, comparing yourself to them. This is a fool’s errand because you’ll always come up short.

Q: Do you think Rafael Nadal whines about how he’s not crushing it like Novak Djokovic?

A: Fuck no, because he’s too busy working his ass off.

[–]NaAF12242 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

If by “cut out games” you mean you seriously still play video games as an adult then holy shit sell all that bullshit.

[–]meivanlee2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

It’s a mindset thing .

It’s ALL mindset.

I am a rockstar because I truly believe I am. Not because I fit the stereotype of what ppl on Red Pill consider to be a rockstar.

I’m in shape.. but I was a rockstar even when I wasn’t ,

I have money, but I was a rockstar when I was broke. When I met my wife to be I was a low level drug dealer.. she on the other hand was working on her masters, is beautiful and came from a very wealthy family .. yet when I approached her my mindset is / was I don’t care who YOU are .. I KNOW there is no other human on this earth quite like me..

When you realize that you are 1 of 1. The way you will approach everything in life will change. (Especially finances) you will stop worrying about money and focus more on your life purpose.. I know many broke artists who are very happy nevertheless because they have found their passion.

If you think you have to be in super great buff shape.. look at one Russel Brand. That man has probably never lifted a weight in his life yet he is more rockstar then probably 95% of people posting claiming they are RP.

It ALL comes down to mindset .. instead of thinking you are behind, embrace the fact that you are also ahead of a lot of people simply by virtue of putting in the time and work to improve yourself. Most men are bums.. so many men just settle for whatever life gives them.. the fact that you know there is a better you to be achieved already puts you ahead of the pack.

Hope this helps !

✌🏽 Ivanlee

[–]rAFCdadHUSBAND[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you it does, especially the last paragraph

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Fitness; i go to the gym regular but have not got abs or swole. What the hell am i doing?

If your diet is on point, get your T checked.

Also - I'm quitting drinking permanently. It simply does not help with energy, fitness, testosterone levels or financially. I can't afford to be dragging that anchor around.

If you are really ready to quit for good, look into "the sinclair method". It's a way of unlearning alcohol addiction.



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