On the process of owning my shit. I am realizing. I’m getting deeper into my girls frame. I want to stop that shit.

My question is how do you guys who were once so deep into your wives frames. Shift out of it without causing a nuclear meltdown or her to ask wtf is going on. Kind of like the 1000 foot rope analogy.

As I type that I realize that thinking is still in her framing. Caring about how she will react. But I think once you’re so deep into her frame and she knows everything about you. And you barely have a frame to begin with. I’m find it very hard (from past relationships) to break out of it. It’s almost like you don’t have the frame strength to break free. For example.

If I want to stop texting my girl so much. But she knows my work schedule. Knows how often and free I can Text and how busy I am because I set that frame before I realize it was stupid.

How do you shift away from that. Without her calling your “I’m just busy” as bullshit?

I’m guessing say something like. “Nothing wrong. just trying to focus on getting this work done”

If she’s so used to you acting a certain way for so many years. And you try to switch it up she going to know something is up.

I don’t know if that’s the best example but just one I thought of. I feel to establish your own frame you need to first get out of hers. Been having such trouble doing that.