My LTR manages a restaurant. And is under a lot of stress. I also have TONS of shit going on in my life.

I also know when something is wrong just by the way she will/won’t text or talk to me. Through the change of certain behaviors.

Today I was busy all day but I knew something was going on because the lack of Text she usually sends. Whatever I was hoping she was busy too and having a good day.

After I got all my shit done. I texted her back. Some sexting shit as I usually do. And she didn’t respond and then posted a snap like an hour later.

told her I hope everything is alright. I got a weird vibe today. That I was going to sleep.

Her text back was “my bad was in my own world. Goodnight”

So now I know something is up. She never acts that way. I FaceTime her. She’s no answering. Then finally she calls bad.

She tells me she was dealing with work issues. And all this stuff going on at work.

Which is fine. But why ignore me? Why not just say I’m dealing with work issues. Or keep me in the loop.

I was kind of cold over FaceTime bc I was annoyed by How it was handled. I told her I understand but I didn’t like how she handled it. To let me know if she needs anything. We said our good nights and went.

She then text me saying

“I felt that was abrupt”

“I’m sorry if that made you feel some type of way. It’s hard for me to not let people rent space in my brain if they’re not paying their way. Today wasn’t a good day and I just didn’t want to admit it into existence. But it is what it is. I tried to let it go and keep busy. You’re the last person I want anything to roll down hill on.”

Again don’t care. Know work is stressful. Know shit happens. I’m here to help. But I DONT like being left in the dark.

You can say It’s a frame issue but I think it’s something else. Am I wrong for wanting to be kept in the loop if there’s an issue. I don’t even need to know shit. I just don’t want to waste my time thinking. Somethings going on and I don’t know what??

What can I learn from there and how can I handle it better from here on out? Do I respond back? It’s like reward good behavior which I always do. Don’t reward bad. And I felt this was bad behavior.