Been dating this girl for almost 4 years know and thankfully I’ve known about TRP the whole ride through.
I set my boundaries early on as the foundation of this relationship so things are well. We’re in our early 20s.
Before we started dating she’s wanted to do a program at Disney where she would be working at an entry level position for about 4 months for them. It’s been a dream of hers for a long time. Halfway through our relationship she applied and asked me what I think of it. I tell her she’s fine to do whatever she wants. She then asks again what I think and I outright tell her that our lives would fall out of sync and we wouldn’t be able to see each other much at all for quite some time. I also drunkenly told her a couple days after that our relationship was so much better before she brought this Disney thing up. Anyways, I realized I sounded discouraging and she ended up not going.
Two years go by and she finds out that she can still apply and it’s her last chance to (age redirection). She tells me she has not been able to stop thinking about it for months and I realize I need to not be discouraging like last time. I tell her that if she’s been thinking of it this long then she’s gonna regret not even applying as this is her last chance. She asks me what I think and I tell her that I support her 100%. She asks me why I have a different opinion know compared to last time but I just stand by saying I support her now.
She will be applying soon and if she gets it she might go. The reality is I don’t want her to go. I don’t want her to be away for 4 months because distance is annoying to deal with. Not going to lie, I would think about if she is going out or not on the weekends and things like that (she’s never gone out without me while dating but still). It’s a lot of time apart and it can’t be good for my mental health. I also don’t want to tell her “no”, because if I do she will not go and I don’t want her to resent me for that.
Kinda torn here gents, any suggestions on how to proceed?