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LTR considering going away to a different state for 4 months

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July 29, 2018

Been dating this girl for almost 4 years know and thankfully I’ve known about TRP the whole ride through.

I set my boundaries early on as the foundation of this relationship so things are well. We’re in our early 20s.

Before we started dating she’s wanted to do a program at Disney where she would be working at an entry level position for about 4 months for them. It’s been a dream of hers for a long time. Halfway through our relationship she applied and asked me what I think of it. I tell her she’s fine to do whatever she wants. She then asks again what I think and I outright tell her that our lives would fall out of sync and we wouldn’t be able to see each other much at all for quite some time. I also drunkenly told her a couple days after that our relationship was so much better before she brought this Disney thing up. Anyways, I realized I sounded discouraging and she ended up not going.

Two years go by and she finds out that she can still apply and it’s her last chance to (age redirection). She tells me she has not been able to stop thinking about it for months and I realize I need to not be discouraging like last time. I tell her that if she’s been thinking of it this long then she’s gonna regret not even applying as this is her last chance. She asks me what I think and I tell her that I support her 100%. She asks me why I have a different opinion know compared to last time but I just stand by saying I support her now.

She will be applying soon and if she gets it she might go. The reality is I don’t want her to go. I don’t want her to be away for 4 months because distance is annoying to deal with. Not going to lie, I would think about if she is going out or not on the weekends and things like that (she’s never gone out without me while dating but still). It’s a lot of time apart and it can’t be good for my mental health. I also don’t want to tell her “no”, because if I do she will not go and I don’t want her to resent me for that.

Kinda torn here gents, any suggestions on how to proceed?

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Title LTR considering going away to a different state for 4 months
Author hugest_ragnarok
Upvotes 8
Comments 14
Date 29 July 2018 03:33 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/204153
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/92ryy4/ltr_considering_going_away_to_a_different_state/
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[–]pridebrah17 points18 points  (1 child) | Copy

As someone who has been through this type of thing, don't give a single fuck about it. Truly enter a state of mind to where you don't care if she comes or goes. Wish her luck and remain in a good mood at all times. Be aloof and let her live her life. Flirt with other bitches while she's gone and feel it out day by day.

In my experience they will be sending you nudes and dirty videos all the time if they really miss you. If not and you're getting a vibe that this isn't just about work or whatever, call it a day and move on. Either way, shut up, let people do their thing, and care less overall. If you were truly soaking up the RP this time you wouldn't be posting this because you'd care the least and thus have the most power in the relationship.

Right now she's got you missing her. Make her miss you.

[–]Cloudsurf89[🍰] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red18 points19 points  (3 children) | Copy

Totally hold her back from her success because you are a faggot.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]hystericalbonding2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Scarcity mentality, neediness... oneitis.

[–]weakandsensitive2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

+1. Incredibly weak.

[–]The_LitzRed Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is not about her going away, it's about you not coping with it.

You still sound insecure about the relationship. You need to be working on yourself to develop some abundance mentality, right now you are operating on a scarcity mindset. Your issue around this is not her going away but the weakness you are displaying. Get to the bottom of why you feel so threatened. Right now she hasn't even applied or been accepted and you are in a tailspin.

It only four months. That hardly qualifies as a LDR. A LDR usually entails someone moving away with no proper plan of moving together again. You have an exact start and finish date.

If she is going to fall on some strange dick she can do it in one day without traveling to Disney world.

Man up and be a man she does not want to cheat on. If she finds some strange there it will eventually come out and then you send her packing.

Enough with this scarcity mindset.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ok cupcake, hard as it is you have been gifted with a 'make or break' 4 month opportunity to move this towards lock down or end it.

Take the opportunity to find out how important you really are to her

Also take the opportunity to tap strange and you'll know if she's right for you.

[–]maintaining_frame4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Been dating this girl for almost 4 years know and thankfully I’ve known about TRP the whole ride through. We’re in our early 20s.

What's wrong with this picture? Sidebar >>>>

This will be a long distance relationship. There is no such thing as a long distance relationship. Advice: wish her well on her Disney program with the understanding that an LDR is no relationship, at least on a romantic level. If you want to fuck yourself again after four months in an early 20s LTR, have at it. But there should be no expectation of exclusivity during the four months--ya know, hypergamy and all that.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I set my boundaries

jesus fuck. who's the retard who keeps suggesting this

a real man doesn't have to set boundaries. a real man is too busy doing his own fucking thing, too busy trying to get a second's distance away from his LTR so he can fuck her roommates or her sister, or her aunt sally, or the barista down the street, to fucking worry about his fucking "boundaries"

when i hear a man has "boundaries" i hear he has a vagina

grow the fuck up, get your map going, and stop fucking worrying about what some bitch is doing when she's not around. 4 months? a real man would see that as his own persona fuck vacation and shoot for 50 bitches fucked before she got back

grow a fucking sack

[–]civilizedfrog1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You should know this by now that there is no such thing as a long distance relationship. However it would be cruel to not let her follow her dream. So you tell her truthfully that you don't believe in ldr but you would whole heartedly support her if she decides to go. Let her make that decision. If she stays, then you got yourselves a keeper. If she leaves, you move on.

I'm against the concept of marriage. So if she wanted to go, I would let her go and move on with my life.

[–]RedPillCoach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

4 months? Soldiers and sailors are away for a year at a time and then they re-enlist and go again. I don't see the problem.

[–]WesternhagenWinner0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you had a couple of plates, you would not care that she was about to walk out the door for four months with 100% of your pussy supply. You're in your 20s, you're not married; why don't you have plates? Why are you even posting in askMRP rather than askTRP?

My advice: make sure you have plates while she is gone, so you don't sit there pining for her the whole time and worrying that she's banging Disney Chad. Start practicing day game, doing cold approaches and "catch and release" so that you're totally prepared, the day she leaves, to get other women. And then do that! If you're doing that, you won't care what she's doing there, and you might not even care if she comes back or not. Kill your oneitis!

[–]a0001_i1100-5 points-4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Tough sitch. 4 years is tough to throw away on something like this. If it’s truly her dream and not just some whim to take a break and see other people I would be pretty torn too. It might be worth talking to her about and seeing where she’s at with this relationship and what she intends. 4 years is a long time to just give up for something like this. Idk man it’s not like she’s saying she needs a break. Be prepared for the worst case scenario, hope for the best.

I would handle it this way (just my opinion): I would support her in going, as you are. Explain 4 months is a long time, and your concerns with it. Don’t ask or beg her to stay and not do it. See where she stands with the relationship, proceed accordingly. Wait it out if you think it’s worth it and you guys will pick up where you left off. Be ready to walk away. Good luck.

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