so after the RP learning, a few failed comfort tests and failing to acknowledge that she was even wearing 'lingerie' (shit looked like some of her normal 'nighty-PJs'), so it went unnoticed. in her words, after not doing so or complimenting her, i made her self conscious and she says shes just not going to wear them anymore (which has held true for the better part of the last few months). of course i got butthurt and tried to defend my rationale with logic. which resulted in catastrophic failure.....

i feel like this is one of those situations of getting your girl to workout... you can't tell her directly, but you have to come up with other ways to get her in the mood to do it.

is there any way i can proceed from here to get her to be playful and sexy again. we still have sex. things are still very intimate. i just don't know how to address this specifically.. i feel like i need to play this right on words. and suggest it in a very subtle way. also kind of feel with how sexual things have been, it would have just worked itself out by now, especially with passing more comfort tests and being her rock lately, but clearly it hasn't... and im sure the thoughts of me 'not appreciating' her dressing up remain in the back of her head.

im ready to listen. thanks