Check my post history for my background if you like. My LTR is extremely outgoing, I am introverted and come off as quiet a lot of the time. When we’re out with friends she usually big ups our relationship and me… she may joke around in a self deprecating way, but normally doesn’t put me down in any way. I don’t get a lot of shit tests generally. I think I do alright when they happen when we’re alone but I have so little experience dealing with them when we’re around other people and I’m not sure how to handle them.

Last night we were picking up my friend from the airport, an important friend to me that I hadn’t seen in a year and half. It was the first time she was meeting him. I get this shit test while driving that I fail:

5 mins into meeting each other:
Friend: Thanks for letting me stay at your place
Her: oh no problem, I’m extroverted and like having people around
Friend: I’ve noticed
Her: Yeah, Don and I are complete opposites. Like whenever we run into the neighbours I’m always super friendly “Hi, how are you doing?!?” he’s like “grunt” (does autistic impression of me)
Me: (uncomfortably laugh it off)
Friend: (awkward pause that I perceived as him thinking “that was weird”) - Sounds about right

Fairly mild but throughout the night she throws out probably another 3 mild shit tests that put me down in front of my friend. I’m not sure why or what got into her, she’s usually sweet. But it did not give off a good first impression of our relationship.

This morning this convo happens:
Me(calmly): You were in a weird mood yesterday while meeting my friend. You kept bringing up mildly deprecating stories about me. (I give example from above). I’m not mad but I didn’t appreciate it and I don’t want you to do that anymore.
Her: Uh, seems like you’re mad.
Me: Nope, I’m just telling you what I observed and that I don’t want you to do that anymore.
Her: I always do that. You just care more about what he thinks…(she proceeds to DEER)
Me: That may be, I’m just telling you what I observed and that I don’t want you to do that anymore
End of convo, later she texts me like nothing happened.

I was calm throughout the convo so I wouldn’t come across as butthurt but is the move itself being butthurt? Or am I just setting a solid boundary?