Background info: I've been lurking trp for hours over the last month and it's only reaffirmed the concerns I have with my marriage.

I'll try to be as thorough and honest as possible in hopes of quality responses.

I am 28 yo male. I've always considered myself alpha in social situations and with strong beta tendencies in relationships and LTR. Average to above average physique. I would estimate my SMV to be 8-8.5. I have a great career in a poorer economic area. Salary ~125k. In the last 12 years, I have been with countless women ranging from HB4-9. I need work on frame, establishing dominance, and shit tests.

My wife is 23. We met when she was 18 started dating shortly afterwards. She is a strong HB8. HB9 by some standards. Had been with 3 other men before me, one of which was 3 year LTR.

While dating, she moved in with me. She worked full time to pay her bills. I rarely bought her gifts or spent much of my own money on her. I did pay for all living expenses and meals. She wasn't overly materialistic.

Last December, she quit her job to go to school full time which I supported. She has custody of her 4 year old niece and lives with us full time. I pay for all of our living expenses, for her $40k car, all of her tuition, and all expenses for her niece.

Pros: She is an amazing housewife. I haven't cooked, cleaned, or done laundry in over a year. She's a great mother. She shows a lot of affection. She doesn't nag much about what I spend money on. We have sex whenever I ask. I know AWALT but of all the ones I've dated, she is the least likely to be unfaithful.

Cons: The sex feels forced. It's boring and vanilla. I've told her my expectations til I'm blue in the face. It changes for a night or two then back to the same. We rarely have exciting fun together. Nothing excites her. She doesn't like risks. Everything seems like a chore. I don't see any desire in her. She will give oral before sex if I ask but never to completion. I've asked. We've fought about it. She will not complete. In her defense, she never has. She refuses to get on her knees because it is "demeaning" to her. I'll do anything she asks in bed. Our sex life has neither improved or declined from dating.

She will not rub my back after working all day. If she does, it's half assed because "it hurts her hands."

She's antisocial. Doesn't care to go out much. Isn't interested in making friends. I'm outgoing and like new people.

I'm having a hard time feeling her love. I miss the wild and passionate sex I used to have. I've never had to ask for BJ much less to completion. I'm used to getting what I want when I want from someone I'm committed to. I provide her a life of luxury and feel she should have the desire to please me. She thinks she works just as hard as I do doing the housework and going to school. The desire isn't there and we all know you can't negotiate it. BetaBux!

Before finding trp, her lack of desire had me checked out mentally for a couple weeks. We still had sex but it was forced. She rarely iniatiates. Then I learned of dread. She responded well. I started back in the gym and started putting me first. She even told me I was being emotionally abusive. She has been more affectionate lately. Problem is, I don't want to live the rest of my life playing dread game. RedPill opened my eyes to so many red flags.

I have an extremely high libido. She doesn't but I rarely ever get hard no's. However, I don't know if I can go on knowing she doesn't have the desire to please me. I'm to the point where I'd rather not have sex at all than her show no enthusiasm. The passion is gone, folks! i haven't felt anything better in my life than a full body massage and a BJTC. She denies me that.

We've been married a year and a half. No kids together. Divorce should be relatively easy except for she and her niece don't have anywhere to go except her parents.

Advice? Should I stick it out? Should I calm down and realize the Pros far outweigh the cons? Or should I realize I'm not happy and move on? 10 years from now will I regret leaving?

I realize that 90% of men would be happy in my marriage. But I'm bored with my marriage and I'm bored with my life.

Taking all feedback, positive and negative.

TL;DR: Married less than 2 years to a HB8. Great housewife and mother. Passion and desire is gone. Should I GTFO while the getting is good? Or should I realize that what I have is rare and you have to take the good with the bad?