STBX and I were having a logistical conversation (kids and babysitter) about New Year's eve. She wanted to know if I had plans with anyone (she figured out I've been seeing someone.) I said I plans, but would not give her details. She then asked me if I would like to have a drink with her and her bf. Keep in mind, this is the guy she left me for. Also keep in mind this guy is a registered sex offender, against kids.
She knows that I have her by the balls with the custody of the kids. My lawyer and I have drafted paperwork that will keep him from visiting my STBX in her home, even when the kids aren't there. Part of his crime(s) involved child porn and cameras.
So back to the conversation (shit test): STBX - Would you like to have a drink M and I? He would like to clear the air.
Me - No thanks. I'm pretty sure the air is clear enough. (It was extremely hard to not go ape shit as a response to this question)
STBX - I think you are passing judgment on him.
Me - Nope. That judgment is already out there.
STBX - Don't you care if I'm happy?
Me - Nope.
STBX - There you are thinking about yourself again.
Me - Yep. (This one really stunned her) (My BP answer would have been totally different)
STBX - Fuck you then. This is why I'm leaving you. Blah, Blah, Blah. You are so miserable, I hope you never find anyone that makes you happy.
Me - Ok.
STBX - That's all you can say.
Me - That's all that is worth saying.
I did suggest to her that if he would like to ask me himself, he is more than welcome to do so. I would no longer entertain words from her on his behalf. He has yet to contact me, and I don't anticipate him to.
I guess the point of my post is that the shit tests never end, even when the marriage has. Really though, why would she think I would causally indulge in a drink with her and her sex offender bf? WTF. All I could really do was shake my head once she left the room. I was more in disbelief that I was living in a world in which I would be involved in such a conversation.