Thank you. I'm a lazy fat fuck and I need to change that.

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April 14, 2016
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It's crazy how much it takes to create the motivation to "wake up".

This is a continuation of my original post:

https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/4em3w7/pregnancy_and_miscarriage_how_to_be_supportive_in/

I looked in the mirror today to realize I wouldn't fuck me. I need to fucking change that.

I have known about TRP for the last 2ish years or so, but I didn't really internalize much. I didn't really "get it". It's easy to intellectualize some of the concepts, but it's not the same as feeling it to the core of your being.

Today was my awakening. I hit my rock bottom as a beta/blue piller in the above post/situation. I have made some awful decisions in my life when it's come to my priorities, health, and my relationships.

I have spent so much time and energy worrying about my relationship, that I let myself go. I didn't have my own goals. I didn't really care about myself. I thought I was a kind/good person that wanted the best life for myself and my partner.

Being the nice guy is a lie I told myself to make me feel better.

At the end of the day, I was nice, kind, and caring for my partner because I wanted sex.

I was not doing it because I wanted to or for any other reason, but I somehow managed to convince myself I was a nice guy. The nice guy pill was sooo far down there that it took a miscarriage/rock bottom in my current relationship for me to spit it out.

I finally realized it. I'm a lazy fat fuck. I eat too much. I don't exercise. Being a good provider due to a good career is not all that it takes to have a good relationship, and any relationship issues I have now are just a symptom of me being lazy.

I wonder if there is a way to internalize TRP without going through a rock bottom. I know that's what it took for me.

These are my current priorities:

  • Myself. I need to work on myself and my own goals.
  • Lift. I need this to make me healthy in both mind and body.
  • Food. I need a healthy relationship with food and to eat healthy.

From there, I can continue reading and learning TRP stuff, but I think I need to start with the above.

Thank you to this community for helping me realize this. You are extremely supportive and say how-it-is even if it sounds assholish. I really needed that. I need to take this realization and put it into action starting now.


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Title Thank you. I'm a lazy fat fuck and I need to change that.
Author redpillthrowaway1337
Upvotes 7
Comments 18
Date 14 April 2016 10:12 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/207506
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/4etmlr/thank_you_im_a_lazy_fat_fuck_and_i_need_to_change/
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[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Welcome to reality brother. Now go turn that flabby disgrace of a body into a hulking man beast built to fuck.

[–]ThrowTheEgg1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy

Sounds like a good start. But right now only sounds like one. Will it actually become one?

Here's a clue. List here 3 very, very specific steps for your "priorities": exactly what and how you're going to achieve them.

Fuck that. List one item for "Lifting." What are you going to do, exactly? When are you going to gym, how often, and what are you going to do when you're there?

Then do that. Then do it again.

[–]redpillthrowaway1337[S] 1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

Myself. I need to work on myself and my own goals:

  • Instead of allowing relationship thoughts from invading me and worrying about it / wasting mental energy on that, I'm going to focus on what I want and fulfilling my desires
  • I need to spend time on personal projects and get shit done. Right now this means finishing coding my current project, and getting at least one concrete thing done on it a day
  • I need to read at least one book a month. This means that instead of watching Netflix/TV I will spend time reading.

Lift. I need this to make me healthy in both mind and body:

  • Learn about lifting. Read about things like the 5x5 routine and figure out a plan and stick with it. Maybe spend about an hour on this total so I don't end up wasting all my time on it. If you have any recommendations let me know.
  • Go to the gym every single day. Do cardio on non-strength days.

Food. I need a healthy relationship with food and to eat healthy:

  • Eat for fuel and not for pleasure.
  • Cook 90% of my food at home. Only eat out for social reasons and eat paleo unless it's my cheat day
  • Food I eat should be close-to-paleo, basically meat & veggies
  • I should NOT eat processed foods. Avoid pizza, bagels, pasta, etc.

[–]ThrowTheEgg1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Nice one mate. You're now one step closer.

Quick but critical note on the "Food" item. All your actions are right, but the number 1 (and 2, 3...100) thing to understand and commit to is figuring out your TDEE (how many calories you burn a day), and eat ~500 fewer calories than that, daily. And get your macros right (you need enough protein to grow muscle).

More here: http://www.muscleforlife.com/tdee-calculator/

http://www.muscleforlife.com/build-muscle-lose-fat/

good luck

[–]Griever1140 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Not OP but thank you for these calculators!

[–]ThrowTheEgg0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No worries mate. Wish I'd had these when I was starting, would've saved me 2 years of dicking around. 'But I just ran 8k every day this week, why am I still fat?! By the way, can you pass the pizza?"

[–]cj_aubreyRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I need to read at least one book a month.

Or one per week. There's a lot of content to get through here. Much my betadom was just skills I never learned before.

[–]jarep1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fellow fat fuck here, about 2 months ahead of you. Still a newb myself so I'll be nicer than the vets. I'll give you some concrete steps instead of hand waving.

Listen to these guys and go lift. Go to the Stronglifts 5x5 website and ingest that for a few days. Schedule those 3 days a week ahead of time so you don't have any bullshit excuses. If you've never lifted before (I hadn't), and have some money to blow, hire a trainer to get started so you don't fuck your body up and waste your time. Squatting with proper form is really fucking hard, especially if you're a big fat fuck with poor mobility.

Get on MyFitnessPal and log everything you put in your mouth. Yes it's a fucking pain in the ass. Do it. Once you have a week or two down, figure out a diet plan that works for you. Go here to figure out what your BMR and TDEE are so you have a starting point.

Next week, go post on the weekly Own Your Shit thread on TRP to help keep yourself accountable.

There you go, get to it.

[–]ParadoxThatDrivesUs0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why are you telling us? So you don't have to do it?

I would cut it down to just one - lift. Then flood the zone on that one priority. Focus all of your mental and spiritual energy on that one priority until you've nailed it into place.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

You know what? All this "relationship" stuff doesn't mean dick if you don't get your shit together. Embrace those priorities you just articulated and don't look back.

[–]redpillthrowaway1337[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly. Relationship stuff is on the backburner now.

I imagine that things will improve as a biproduct of everything else I'm working on and it will likely take me 24-36 months to get it all together, especially considering how deeply beta and bluepill I was. I know I'll see gains before then, but that's what I'm expecting.

After that I can think about relationship stuff. It may make sense for me to break off the engagement or not. I've got a while to figure that part out and it's not a priority. At the moment my girl is not really worried about it - she seems satisfied with an engagement ring on her finger and isn't in a rush to get hitched.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Did you start lifting? Getting in shape is going to be your best allie right now. Take this slow. Have you read No More Mr. Nice Guy?

[–]redpillthrowaway1337[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Lifting starts tomorrow.

Have not read No More Mr. Nice Guy but I obtained it today and will be reading it too :)

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

You said that yesterday. I would hire a personal trainer the first time you go to the gym. You want to set up a routine with circuits (no rest between reps) and heavy weights/low reps for bulk. I think weight training helps you cut a lot better than cardio for fat fucks (like us).

I posted on this topic: How I lost my gut while continuing to eat ice cream...and without liposuction

[–]redpillthrowaway1337[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for the link.

[–]lionmenden0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You have a floor under your feet? Then you can do push ups. Right now. There's no excuse that you don't have a gym.

Push ups combine one of the best chest exercises, bench press, with one of the best abdominal exercises, planks. They won't be enough to challenge anyone but a beginning lifter, but if you're over weight and under muscled, they're perfect to start.

You can do them literally right now, and if you don't, then how are you going to go to the gym tomorrow and start a 5x5 program?



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