What if she mirrors?

BluepillProfessor · 2015-12-10T16:21:50+00:00

if I say anything she doesn't agree with, she leaves the house, walks away from any talk that doesn't go her way, withdraws affection and of course zero sex ever.

Is THAT what you are doing? If she says anything you don't agree with you go straight to level 7-8 Dread? Maybe you need to modeL better behavior then!

I believe that high levels of Dread should only be used- ONLY FOR REPEATED SEXUAL DENIALS (although some others disagree).

Sure you may go cool for a bit and you may even leave the house if she won't shut up with the nagging. However, generally you do NOT leave even then because of the nagging but because you have tried repeatedly to redirect/calm her down and THEN ONLY AFTER you have set a hard boundary (i.e. "We are not talking about this any more, let's talk about something else") ONLY THEN DO YOU CONSIDER LEAVING.

Are you still at "zero sex ever?" You are focusing on yourself which is great! But since you are slamming into level 7 and 8 I assume you have tried level 6 first?

WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO SEDUCE YOU WIFE?

WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO ACTIVELY TURN HER ON?

angels_fan · 2015-12-10T05:07:36+00:00

Why do you care one bit what she does?

Your path right now is to be the best man you can be.

Your life should be so full of shit to do that you don't really even notice if she's there or not.

It sounds like you care an awful lot about where she is and what she's doing and what mood she's in. That's the beta in you. You need to stop caring about her moods.

strategos_autokrator · 2015-12-10T08:45:03+00:00

If you are bothered by how she reacts to you, it means you are looking for her approval, which means you dont' have frame. She is mirroring just to test your frame.

Do the changes in your life for yourself, not for her. Only when you internalize this, she will trust the changes.

turbosympathique · 2015-12-10T13:19:30+00:00

Pro tip: keep it light and use a lot of humour. Tease her like a little sister, play tricks on her etc.... Have some fun!!!

This will change the way you interact with her and make thing fun again. And if she mirror back this "fun" behavior then it's win win.

nantucketghost · 2015-12-10T20:38:45+00:00

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enfier · 2015-12-11T02:01:30+00:00

Sounds like you are moving too fast and too overtly. I'm not sure where you got the idea that you should withdraw affection if your wife says something you don't like. Dread Level 1 is working out and should take you about a month. Then you'd be moving to Dread Level 2 which is dealing with shit tests. Waayyy down the list is when you condition your response to your wife's actions.

I just suggest you keep doing you, improving and keeping it quiet. If she tries to pick a fight, just don't engage. What matters is the actions below the surface, not the day to day words.

AgainstTheHerd · 2015-12-27T15:55:19+00:00

With an amused smirk on your face; start calling her your little parrot. My wife also is highly intelligent and did the same for some time.. that is until I began calling her my little parrot. She hated it and over time the mirroring stopped.

Griever114 · 2015-12-10T13:44:08+00:00

Outcome independence. Right now you are giving too many shits for what she is doing.

Remember, the CORE of MRP is that you are working on YOURSELF.

As others have said, you should be too busy taking care of yourself to give a fuck about her bullshit.

YOU are the most important person in YOUR world. No one gives flying fuck if you live or die. You live for yourself and the wife either comes along or you NEXT her.

Icemanwannabe · 2015-12-10T12:28:31+00:00

Thank you gentlemen for setting it straight. I'm actually having fun with shit tests, can't explain why. I feel amusement at her behaviors.

Icemanwannabe · 2015-12-10T12:33:11+00:00

I suppose I could have phrased my question more simply. Are mirroring behaviors another form of shit test? learbing the difference between shit and comfort was challenging, this felt slightly different. Thanks again.

BluepillProfessor · 2015-12-10T16:22:58+00:00

More threat baiting and vote manipulation from TBP on this thread. Knock it off girls, you know this against Reddit rules.

Icemanwannabe · 2015-12-10T05:16:21+00:00

That's pretty much been my behavior. I'm probably at my busiest I've ever been, playing with a soccer team, coaching another 3 times a week plus games and regular guy outings. I was just curious because I've never seen anyone talk about mirroring behaviors and I found them interesting as a topic. She has intensified mainly due to me withdrawing my company. For years night time was tv time for hours and now she asks me to join but I refuse and do other things, work, read, sleep, go out. Even more since she has taken sex completely off the table. I tried initiating in different ways up to slightly aggressive but she got nearly violent. Sleeps wrapped in several blankets to keep me away. That was the last straw and major motivation to completely withdraw. I genuinely have begun caring only about my well being.

lenrok1 · 2015-12-10T06:42:14+00:00

What is the difference between some "tantrum/children behaviour" and "mirroring". For me it is none. Just a different strategy to get back you into pussy role.

Second comment : You have used 'recently'. Maybe you are changing too fast. Check below comment - it might explain something for you:

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3qm961/verbal_intercourse_is_optional/cwgn5sb

Title	What if she mirrors?
Author	Icemanwannabe
Upvotes	3
Comments	22
Date	December 10, 2015 4:58 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/3w6gur/what_if_she_mirrors/
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