M 44 here with F 44 wife, married 20 years. I've been lurking here for three months now. Read just about everything, some stuff several times. Implementing IDGAF was easy because I truly didn't GAF.
Before I started my wife had an emotional affair in her own head with a married younger guy and I found out about it - she wrote him a long rambling letter saying that her feelings for him were "just friendly" and it was a shame if other people thought differently - i.e. his wife. It also said about how he was "so attractive" blah blah. I didn't know about this guy, but I suspected something was off, started snooping, and by complete chance found the letter in a file recovery "trash bin" on a cloud storage account she uses. Sex was downhill for years, down to about once every 3 months at the worst times. She was emotionally distant, and a whining demanding bitch. Shit testing was her way of communicating.
I started implementing Red Pill. Before the letter, I somehow thought I "loved" her in some way. After I found the letter I really didn't GAF about her. I still don't. I told her her "best friend" who is 5 years younger than her, hotter and more fun came on to me several times in the past 2 years and I turned her down - which is true. I told her she had to get her shit together as I was done trying to make her happy, I was going to make myself happy from now on as I couldn't make her happy. I told her I was prepared to divorce her if I wasn't happy, and was going to keep score on how happy I was. If it fell below 5, I'm gone. For reference, it was 2 before. We have kids, so for now I want to make it work to some extent.
She has turned around 180 degrees. Now she only ever comfort tests. Shit tests are gone. Sex is whenever I want it, whatever I want. She is WET for me - before lube was needed, not anymore. She has initiated several times, ans wears sexy underwear to bed, where before it was wooly PJs. Now the problem I have is I'm just not that interested in her. She broke something in me that I don't think can be fixed - my beta goggles I suppose. I constantly get smiles and stares from other women, most far hotter than my wife. Before my wife's "friend" was the extent of it, but now it's nearly every woman I meet ! I am really tempted to cheat on her but I guess that's lowering myself to her level. The thing that amazes me most is how she crumbled completely like this ! I am still keeping my eyes open and monitoring everything while giving off the whole "I know it was a one off thing" and "I would never snoop again - privacy is important" vibe. I am self employed so I can easily check out her stories without her knowing and so far everything checks out. She is genuinely making an effort.
Anyway, this is probably much more rambling and uncoordinated than it was meant to be but thought I would share my thoughts and see what you guys think.