A Few Topics to Tackle

RoseAvara · 2020-09-09T17:01:41+00:00

Finding love, friendship and relationship is more a matter of feels and luck than graphs and stats, I'm affraid. You'll have to make peace with the fact there's a lot of things that you can't control in your life, and that it's a good thing.
It's only true in porn, even the original author of this theory has debunked it.
Women and can love men exactly as they do, which is basically different from person to person because your gender doesn't decide how much you're able to love someone. As for advice, I'd say just look for people you like and be nice to them, even if there's no sex involved, a cool friendship is always worth it. You get help when you feel down, you meet more people, discover new things and all that stuff.
It's only a feeling. You'll always find stuff that confirms or debunk it, just don't worry about it and stay away form online dating, that shit is cringe.
Nobody belongs in the streets.
This is only a theory, what would you gain from taking it as fact ?
Work, activities, hobbies, friends and connexions. Don't meet with people online.
I don't know man, social media ? Capitalism ? Socialism ? Whatever, who cares.
10. 11. 12. I'm sorry I got tired and I need to go. Hope you find what you're looking for.

Inareskai · 2020-09-09T17:11:30+00:00

I would assume they are being relatively truthful, unless you believe them to be incredibly cruel and lying to you on purpose? That seems unlikely. Improving social skill is really a system of trial and error, but if you try to be social and when something doesn't work out try to think about what you could do differently or if it's just the way life is sometimes.
The alpha/beta stuff isn't even true in the wolves the terms came from, let alone in humans who have a completely different social structure. They guy who coined the idea about wolves later disproved it. So not at all true.
Of course women can love in the same way, women are just people. Respect your partner, communicate with them, view them as a capable human and know your own boundaries. Whether the relationship is worth it depends entirely on the people involved, but I don't see why it wouldn't be assuming the relationship is mutual and healthy.
Not very true. Online dating has messed up men and women, because dating generally sucks a bit for everyone. But definitely hasn't 'made' women disloyal. As for 3rd wave feminism, most feminists can't really agree what characterises it, so it seems unlikely that it alone managed to fundamentally alter women and dating. Besides, there are plenty of women who would not identify as feminists, so I suspect they've doubly not been impacted by whatever nebulous impact '3rd wave feminism' had.
I don't actually know what is meant by "belong to the streets" - I assume it's about being akin to prostitutes because they've slept with loads of people? In which case it's firstly a gross idea, and secondly not even very true. Sure some women have a lot of partners, but that doesn't necessarily mean anything about them as people, and secondly, most women I know have had 2-3 partners (and those are the ones at the 'high' end) and those were all in committed relationships.
Do women loose their ability to pair bond after having sex with several different partners over their lives? No. This is complete non-sense.
The best places to meet women are places that you would want to be even if that's not where to meet women - meet them at societies you're interested in etc. because then you've already got interests in common. The red flags would be the same for men: if they unprompted talk shit about their ex, treat servers and those they view as 'lesser' than them poorly, if they seem unkind or two faced. Those are red flags in general regardless of gender.
It's not really true, it's an online community that fluctuates in people going to it, but most people out in the real world/those who are in different parts of the internet don't even really know it exists. Those who are drawn to it tend to be frustrated with the dating systems and/or have had a lot of rejection, which is understandable and makes people feel vulnerable, but those manosphere areas are rarely healthy options.
No. Women are just people. Some of them are going to be disloyal and money grabbing, but because they're bad people not because they're women. Same way there are shit men in the world. Remember that most redpillers are coming from a place of anger and distrust, so their descriptions of women are often clouded with those feelings rather than being objective.
Don't most people stay with the other person because of how they make them feel? Like if someone makes you feel good you stay with them and if they make you feel shit you leave? If who you are is compatible with who they are, then you'll stay together. But if one person is unhappy in the relationship they have no obligation to stay - man or woman. If the other person makes you feel bad, leave.
Many people have great and fulfilling lives without living how the blackpill says people 'should' to live happy and fulfilling lives. It's not just a dichotomy between 'coping' or killing yourself. That's pure black and white thinking and isn't healthy. 'Coping' doesn't mean suffering, and there's very rarely any reason why people who subscribe to blackpill mentality couldn't be happier/less depressed if they stopped subscribing to a catastrophising world view.
I have no idea about no-fap/semen retention ideas and what benefit they supposedly bring. I suspect that unless someone is actually addicted to masturbation they aren't that important to practice, but it's one of those things that seems more like a personal choice than anything that holds any objective importance.

forthelove19 · 2020-09-09T22:43:35+00:00

You should probably start by taking a look at the "redpill detox kit" by u/redpilldetox it has a lot of the answers you are looking for in there

zoemondo · 2020-09-09T23:29:30+00:00

I'm sorry if some of my answers sound generic, I'm just trying to keep my answers to the point. I'm happy to expand on anything I say.

Why would your family and friends lie to you? If they are decent people, they are being honest. Being on the spectrum is a struggle but plenty of people still manage to find love and sex. Looks are important in dating, but it's not everything. It's more about making the best with the genetics you've been given. You can't change everything about how you look but there's many ways to improve. Putting in the effort and making a good impression is what it's about.
The alpha/beta idea is true for guys with ego problems that want to creep on girls. Short answer: it's for losers.
Your question was phrased in a bit of a condescending way but I'll answer it anyway. Both men and women are capable of love. People love in different ways (Google the 5 love languages) but they are all valid when it comes to normal heathy relationships. It's so worth experiencing in life.
Online dating blows. Feminist extremists have ruined the core values of feminism. Just work on meeting people and seeing everyone as a unique individual. You have your whole life ahead of you and there's loads of cool people you will continue to meet throughout your life. That being said, anyone is capable of being an entitled asshole.
Is this an idea that suggests all women are sluts and whores? Why would you think such horrible things about people? Slut shaming is largely projection by fucked up people anyway. I made a post about that awhile back.
There's no science to back up the idea of pair bonding. Why is it that women lose their value after having multiple partners but not men? This is just a load of toxic old school gender norms in disguise, backed up by pseudoscience by men who are looking for excuses for why they want virgin women.
There's unfortunately no straightforward answer. Best places to look first are among your friends, co-workers, classmates. Have hobbies and interests, join meetup groups. If your hobbies are mostly solo, that's okay, because it's still a topic of conversation. Some women don't want to be bothered at the gym, bar, club, out shopping, coffee shop, wherever... but also some women actually are looking to meet guys at those places. It's just difficult because many girls are worried about meeting disrespectful creeps. Just keep talking to people and meeting new people. Increase your odds of meeting someone. I read that giving your number out is a safe bet, because girls don't like being pressured or feeling trapped.
Very good question, I've been wondering that myself. I'm female and I do wonder myself why most girls are either already in a relationship or just not interested at all. Ultimately the problem is that redpill and incel guys often have ego problems and feel entitled to sex and dating. Don't fall for it.
Pretty much anyone in their teens and early 20s is immature and loves drama. Both guys and girls. Just my personal experience, I've actually seen too many young women be loyal to a fault. They put up with too much bullshit in a relationship and won't leave until it's really bad. I think these redpill and blackpill guys are projecting anyway, they would love to just pump and dump so they can increase the number of girls they have slept with. That's the definition of disloyal.
Both men and women stay in relationships for both reasons.
It's complete horseshit. You seem smart and articulate. Don't fall for it. Don't let anyone make you believe or feel that your life is over at age 18, or any time in your 20s. That's a one way ticket to doing nothing with your life. Redpill and blackpill are both crabs in a bucket ideologies.
No idea but it sounds kind of dumb. Just don't get addicted to porn or masturbating, you'll be fine.

Title	A Few Topics to Tackle
Author	RoseAvara
Upvotes	0
Comments	20
Date	September 9, 2020 4:38 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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