I realized a lot of the unrealistic crushes I have on LVM who have done nothing great or remarkable. Then I’ll start imagining how a relationship would be with them: cue spiral. Instead of saying “stop x behavior” I need to implement “when x behavior is triggered do y behavior”.

So, whenever I find myself crushing on a guy and imagining what dating him would be like I think about taking step to achieving my goals: working out and getting a strong & healthy body, spending time with my friends on a call, getting my degree, doing my homework, helping someone with something important, etc! I think about how all the energy that would’ve been spent on a LVM can be used to help me become a better person who helps others!