Girl I've been dating asked me to go out with her and her female friends tonight. What to do

VasiliyZaitzev · 2017-04-13T16:54:28+00:00

Go. Chat up with her friends. You're going to be one guy with N+1 girls. It's Insta-Dread. Be witty, charming and mildly subversive. Take her frame and make it YOUR frame. By the end of the night, you want her friends telling her: "LidlKwark is awesome and you are lucky to have him!"

N.B. If they try to get you to pick up the check, point out (in a 'send up' kind of way) that you are actually an invited guest.

neurosurg · 2017-04-13T19:01:21+00:00

She wants to introduce you to her friends. Show you off/get their opinions. If you're cool and laid back and attractive, it's a great situation and you should definitely go. If you're in your own head and doubting yourself, it's a terrible situation and you should definitely cancel.

BestSC86 · 2017-04-13T16:43:51+00:00

Be a normal cool dude.....what is the problem?

RedSkeller · 2017-04-13T17:06:08+00:00

Just go, don't hover around her and do your own thing. Being flirty and fun with her friends is the best way to interact. Teach them how to play a drinking game the right way. It's not a big deal.

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2017-04-13T20:53:33+00:00

Do something social beforehand as a warm up and it will make it more comfortable for you.

Tiway22 · 2017-04-13T16:40:40+00:00

Go for it man! High chance you end up banging her friends some day.

WightMail · 2017-04-13T19:21:29+00:00

Perfect chance to show an abundance mentality. Do not dote over her. Youve already impressed her, time to impress her friends. Talk up her friends, be slightly flirty with them (nothing inappropriate). Have a few drinks to loosen up if need be but dont get sloppy. Do not pay for her friends. If youre doing well your girl will be all over you and will probably fuck your brains out at the end of the night.

I usually try to keep outings short (2-3hr) because they are easier to manage but thats a personal preference.

thechadyouwannabe · 2017-04-13T22:02:13+00:00

Go for it, have fun, and get out of your comfort zone. The more experience you get, the better you'll be at socializing

ppzhao · 2017-04-13T22:44:24+00:00

If you have the charisma for her friends to like you, go out w/ them and enjoy their company, hang out w/ all her friends. I'd say your attention should be 60/40: 60% spent on ALL her friends combined, 40% spent on your date. She'll be even more attracted to you if her friends like you (in multiple ways).

If you're not charismatic and believe her friends will think you're boring/goofy/unsocial, then you probably got more to lose and not much to gain. Make an excuse, don't go.

PrimerSdime · 2017-04-13T15:42:43+00:00

Go but give her space. Let her introduce you to her friends then hang back and let them do their thing. When she wants attention give her some but don't get carried away.

poochman · 2017-04-13T20:11:26+00:00

Be cool. Meet and chat with her friends. If it gets boring (they are just talking about dumb girl shit), make an excuse to leave and do something else (meeting your friends even if it's a lie).

Peter_B_Long · 2017-04-14T01:11:42+00:00

Prepare as much as possible. Look up the location, look up places around there. Have a plan b / ride home if things go south.

You should be excited to go, and should not be going 'for her'. When you are there, lead the group and the conversation if you can. Just have fun and don't be clingy to your date.

MAGAchief · 2017-04-13T16:11:38+00:00

You shouldn't go if you don't want to go. Your rules and you are in control. Play some video games or go out and pick up a new girl? No point being on a leash because you aren't married.

DiggerClam · 2017-04-13T19:11:25+00:00

Either flake at the last minite or go but pretend to get an important phone call and bail early. Be extremely vague about what the is about to instill dread and mystery.

radioactivities9 · 2017-04-13T18:16:43+00:00

Maybe she is bisexual. It sounds like a night of bango.

Title	Girl I've been dating asked me to go out with her and her female friends tonight. What to do
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Date	April 13, 2017 3:23 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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