Contemplating suicide

HenricusKunrath · 2019-04-08T15:56:48+00:00

If your seriously struggling mentally you need a mental health professional, we arent qualified nor do we have the physical resources to solve those problems.

Here's some advice:

When you are in an a LTR you are repeatedly dousing your brain in chemicals. These chemicals are more structurally similar to street drugs then they are similar to sugar. Its dopamine from sex and other intimate interactions and oxytocin from more cuddling-like behaviors. You grow "addicted" to these chemicals over time. This is normal pair-bonding behavior.

Then you break up.

Now you don't have any of those nice chemicals and your brain freaks out. Add in the fact that you are also depressed from the breakup and its a recipie for bad times mentally. We all go through it.

From a serious LTR it can take approximately 1 year to get over the withdrawl from the intimacy you had. Your near the end of the road. But the more you focus on the past and her the longer this road is going to be.

No one ever made it to California by looking in the rearview mirror.

Your in a hole, and the longer you let yourself stay in the hole it will get deeper.

Start small. Take some advice from TRP's "favorite" clinical psychologist. Clean your room. Once you managed that, go to the gym. You get the idea. To get out of the hole you need to take a ladder out and hit each rung, you dont take one massive leap.

Understand that this is going to take time and there will be periods where you fail. Persist, and you will succeed.

At the end of it all, when you've made it out of your hole you can help others get out of theirs. This is the best way to make sure you never fall down again.

Don't give up.

oyoungpadawan · 2019-04-08T16:58:58+00:00

I'm going to give you some unpopular advice.

I'm not going to talk you out of commiting suicide. If you are unhappy allright it's a solution BUT it's your LAST line of defense against unhappiness. After all life is given to you and what do you know of it? You only know your current world. You know nothing yet.

What you need is new horizons, new sensations, new experiences, new emotions.

You can have great friends and great family, a great job and still fill lonely and unhappy.

My friend you can actually do what not many people can do. You were almost ready to do it anyway.

Free yourself from the shackles that bind you. Start over, you're already down, rise up and transform, explore the world.

You can end this life and start a new one without it being permanent.

And if you've done it a few times sure you can commit suicide, but I guarantee you by then you will not even think about it once anymore.

Also there is a balance, we can not know happiness without unhappiness. Karma will go your way at a certain point if you allow it. Do not revel in the past, once you've rebuilt yourself you will be happy again it's just a matter of time and you'll come out ten times the man you are now.

TLDR: If you really want to take your life end your life without taking your life.

dominodog · 2019-04-08T17:06:21+00:00

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

While you may not see it right now, “This too will pass.”

Hang in there; things will get better.

FixYourselfFirst · 2019-04-08T15:30:51+00:00

See your doctor, and ask for a referral to a physiatrist. TRP isn't equipped to handle deep depression.

TheStrand23 · 2019-04-08T16:17:44+00:00

Hey, wake up, take a shower, brush AND floss your teeth.

Use some body lotion, moisturize all of your body, face and too. Feel good in YOUR skin. Clean your place up, I mean down to the fibers of everything.

Put on some nice clothes go to the store and buy a house plant. Buy new potting soil and repot it in a nice planter.

Learn to take care of it and do as they say. Handle the plant. Heck, talk to it. Water it with plant food in the water. Enjoy the presence of it, when you are down again buy another one.

DirtyBastard13 · 2019-04-08T19:50:00+00:00

Do it. Or don't if you can man up and forget about that cunt. She's a woman, there's plenty out there like her. If you're too weak to deal then the world has no use for you.

rizzyfromthe9 · 2019-04-08T20:23:18+00:00

Things aren't going your way? Good

FereallyRed · 2019-04-08T18:29:58+00:00

She's not special. You are giving her that attribute.

Living in fantasyland.

That's pathetic.

lavinmirc · 2019-04-08T15:46:49+00:00

Call a suicide helpline. You need the help of a professional.

thrwy75479 · 2019-04-08T16:05:45+00:00

Do not kill yourself. Realize that you are not alone in what you're feeling.

There are people that want to help. Please contact a professional as soon as possible.

CaptainKidd96 · 2019-04-08T16:10:17+00:00

Seek some professional help bud. Even if it will cost you a lot it will be worth it. Best of luck!

Title	Contemplating suicide
Author	FudgyBadger
Upvotes	3
Comments	20
Date	April 8, 2019 3:27 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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