Went clubbing with my mate and it really killed my confidence

trpboy123 · 2019-04-14T13:47:54+00:00

You probably stood there like an insecure fuck. You should have had fun.

As for improvement - go and start lifting. Things will start coming your way.

FPLWizard · 2019-04-14T18:50:53+00:00

Just saw your truerateme.

Girls are intimidated by you. It’s that simple.

The girls you’re probably going after (7s, 8s and 9s) have never faced rejection before, have incredibly high egos, and are not about to risk their frail self esteem on a good looking guy, especially when they know good looking guys will approach them eventually. They instead dance with your worse looking friends in the hopes you’ll come onto them. It’s quite comical really. I guarantee if you approached them you’d have great success. How much good looking girls approach you isn’t necessarily a good sign of how attractive you are. Your friend probably looks ‘friendly’ and approachable (and not terrible looks wise either).

Fat girls can take rejection, are used to it, and have nothing to lose, so will go for top tier guys regardless, even if they think they don’t have a chance.

FereallyRed · 2019-04-14T15:48:41+00:00

WAY too general to give any advice.

But pulling drunk fatties is telling.

Means your SMV is not were you think it is.

Lift numbers look good, but do you have the powerlifter build or are you cut? Women often mistake big guys for fat guys. You peacock your body a bit?

CLothes? Attitude? Frame?

Game? You go talk to girls or just wait around for someone to come to you?

You have a Chad wingman. That's awesome. Learn from him. Ask him what you're doing wrong.

Vikingcel · 2019-04-14T16:22:09+00:00

Post on the truerateme sub to get an actual grip on how good looking you are.

Your boy is likely just better looking than you and/or you look intimidating

throwaway19991312 · 2019-04-14T17:25:26+00:00

Look when you break it down theres really 3 factors that make a man attractive to a woman :status, looks and game.

-Status isnt really that important for your average girl as long as you arent in a deadend job doing nothing with your life.As long as you arent a bum you will be grand. I think later in life it matters(once you get into your 30s upwards) but Im not at that stage yet.

-Looks are obviously broken down into face and body. You are jacked and a good looking dude. You arent lacking in this department. Textbook chad.

-Game is where you fall flat. You can also break game down into 3 different steps: 1.)Approach (just dont be autistic) 2.) Flirt (can be broken down also) 3.) Isolate (you can say something as simple as lets go somewhere more quite).

I saw some replies that you didnt approach girls and just hoped they would pick up on your "good vibes". Mate if you want quality women you have to approach no matter how goodlooking or yolked you are. These standards most women have are a good thing in the same way shit tests are a sign of a quality women. If she was easy to get and put herself on a plate for you do you really want to go near her? Game seems to be your only issue to be honest.

Son_of_Gatsby · 2019-04-14T17:01:15+00:00

Don't mind the typical askTRP responses. You probably look better and are more jacked than any of the people telling you to lift here. Most people here don't read the posts and just spout the same bullshit on every post.

I saw your post and looks are definitely not your problem, maybe a different haircut, but that's about it. Just know that with your looks you could probably get with any women. Now it just comes down to game.

Game in a club is a controversial topic, there doesn't seem to be a real consensus AFAIK. It depends on which type of club it is, which country and if you're going solo / with male friends / with female friends and on and on. Many people will tell you do x,y,z and in a club, but really I think you got to find your niche and places you enjoy to have any fun and eventually dating success in clubs.

That means read up on some resources which are preferably specific on the type of clubs you go to ( techno, underground or maybe more mainstream ) and try out different things. I've seen and read all kinds of advice, from approaching many people at the club to completely waiting for girls to approach you. I've seen both work and fail, there are simply too many variables to say what's gonna work for you

bonobo-no · 2019-04-14T17:41:48+00:00

If you have any girls going for you you’re a Chad and I recommend to kindly GTFO my board.

Oily1309 · 2019-04-14T14:46:26+00:00

It's really simple. Lift like your life depends on it every week without excuses.

Make gains and buy clothes that accentuate your hard earned gains.

Harvest your efforts in the club and be flooded by pussy.

Title	Went clubbing with my mate and it really killed my confidence
Author	BradyBrosef33
Upvotes	0
Comments	21
Date	April 14, 2019 1:32 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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