A few years ago I stumbled across some reading about how to give a woman an orgasm and learned that women can have up to 12 different types of orgasm (Nipplegasm, Blended orgasm, A-Spot orgasm, etc). Actually, and it depends on the woman, but it's more realistic to think that any individual woman might have two or three different types.

So, one thing I've found out is, when talking with women at a party or night out, and once in good light hearted conversation, and the subject turns to dating, sex and so on, I've been very successful when asking women how many types of orgasm they think a woman can have ... the subject soon excites them into thinking they might be missing out on something, and that I may be the guy to introduce them to a new feeling.

One time I was at an after work party in another city, and one girl was showing some interest in me. She sat down next to me etc. We were chatting and I asked the assembled group that question. We all had a good conversation, but I could see she was eyeing me all through it. Turns out, however, that logistics meant I was unable to see her after the party.

Speed forwards about a month. I was in her town again and I was going out for a beer with a male friend who she knew. She heard from my friend I was in town and suddenly she turned up in the same bar and we chatted enough that my friend left us to it with a wink and a smile.

The bar had a band, who were pretty good but loud. We'd been flirting and talking about our previous conversation a month or so ago, and then the music was really loud again. I turned and put my mouth to her ear and just said, 'Why don't we get out of here so I can lick you till you come.'

Without a word, she calmly stood up, took my hand and led me out of the bar to a taxi and her apartment. The rest is history.

Lesson learned: Girls love talking about sex, and if you can talk confidently about their orgasms as if you know how to make them happen, then they're just waiting for a chance.