Husband tries to open up to wife about past grief; "gross, keep it to yourself". Oh, she was cheating too

kempff · 2014-06-05T05:09:12+00:00

For the record, my ex-wife and I were finally divorced a few months ago. We separated back in August because she just wasn't happy with our life together. Honestly, neither was I. Our relationship was based on physical attraction and communication wasn't ever there. I opened up to her about this because I needed someone when I was ready to face my past, but the reaction I got let me know she wasn't that person and set my progress back almost entirely. I wanted us to get help as a couple, and we reconciled for a couple months, but she was cheating on me with a number of other people. Something I had been suspicious about for almost our entire relationship, but never had proof of until the end when she had no reason to be careful about getting caught.

Wow. And people think gay marriage is ruining the institution.

ibuprofiend · 2014-06-05T04:48:07+00:00

I actually commented on this earlier saying that you shouldn't share your emotions with a GF because women don't want to see weakness in a potential mate. That comment has like -11 karma right now.

Gotta love mainstream Reddit.

TRPsubmitter · 2014-06-05T07:36:28+00:00

I want to address the reaction/aftermath, since we already know that women are not attracted to vulnerable and weak men:

Don't get caught in the cycle this guy is in. He believes "oh gee golly! I just didn't pick the right woman!". "My soulmate is still out there!"

It's the same line that shamers take when they find out you spin plates: they say "well of course they act that way! You're not meeting the quality girls! You need to spend more effort! NAWALT!"

Believing that there's some "perfect" fit out there for you implies that you (or anyone) doesn't have to change or improve their life/game/body to be sexually successful. This guy could have still been happily married if he just STFU and wasn't weak.

iluminatiNYC · 2014-06-05T11:06:51+00:00

Well, dude needs to look at the bright side. At least his issues weren't used against him. Repeatedly.

CaballeroRojo · 2014-06-05T10:15:25+00:00

Listen, listen well: NAWALT. What happened here is clear as water: she never loved him or even found him attractive. She used him from day 1. Some women will rationalize marrying a beta, others will knowingly do it and exploit it. She was the latter. He mentioned she cheated on him with many other people, something he'd been suspicious of during the entirety of their relationship. This should tell you a lot about the dynamics of this "couple".

I say this to you because there are SO MANY of you younger men or ex-betas who "took the red pill" and now think all women are evil. They are not. AWALT holds true in biomechanics and actions triggered by them. Being a complete cunt to who is supposed to be the love of your life is not biomechanics. It is being a cunt. If anything, biology makes women great caregivers.

The lesson here is not don't marry AWALT lulz The lesson here is do not marry a woman who doesn't love you. You, as an alpha, can make your woman truly fall for you. You know a woman loves you when she is the beta in the relationship. She cooks, cleans, washes and sucks dick for you and only you and is well aware of your SMV and knows other women want you. Any young lady who has not yet been brainwashed by guuurrll poweeer YOLO can be turned into the perfect wife. I should know, have been happily married 5 years.

I was also in that same situation quite recently actually. On my drive home back from work I had horrible flashbacks and by the end of the drive I could clearly see the whole thing: my uncle, who at the time was a good friend (we're only 9 years apart) made me touch his dick and tell him how big it was and then made out with me when I was around 6 or so. I had to tell somebody it was just too much and all of a sudden to simply "be alpha" and keep it to myself. My wife was the first person I told and at first she thought I was messing with her (like I said my uncle and I were good friends he dropped by regularly. I am godfather to one of his kids ffs) but then she realized it was true and was AMAZINGLY supportive until I got back up on my feet (this is the man who taught me how to get laid goddammit it. A freaking older brother I never had kind of thing. You're damn right it fucked with my mind) So fuck anybody who thinks my wife, who supported me through 6 months of unemployment (unrelated to molestation), never even suggested having a girls night out, who gives me the greatest love-making sessions, who cooks like a goddess, who keeps the house clean, who stayed just as beautiful as day one and is carrying my offspring is or can be like this awful person.

I'm not saying my wife is a snowflake (close enough to marry though!). Unicorns don't exist blah blah. I agree with this red pill fact. But by no means are all women lying whores. They will ALL lie and use betas, but not to the same degree. They are not all such big selfish whores as this one. There are various types in which AWALT manifests. Different levels of biomechanics into play. Not every woman wants to ride cock until they hit the wall and then marry a chump, cheat on him and divorce him. Women who do this are broken. Most will marry and remain loyal and servicing (is that the word in English?) to the right man: the man who knows how to tame a mare well enough so she'll only let him ride her.

Think about it: the man in the reddit log was a complete clueless moron. He missed all the signs and men so clueless are usually also completely lacking frame. He was probably a whiny little batch with no self respect who settled for the first where that came his way. He must also be well off financially. What kind of women do you think this type attracts? You guessed right. If you are a good man with a spine, work ethics, ethics in general and a good leader it will take a really, really HUGE slut to do you wrong. It can happen but planets have to align and shit. Most definitely not the norm. Women do want to marry but only the right men. The machos of the past are long gone so poor women (yes poor women) have to settle for tiny dick lovers instead and shit hits the fan.

Women are only capable of loving one man at the time. If she loves you, you are safe. If she cheats, she doesn't love you anymore and YOU had something to do with that changing. This is the truth you like it or not. Do not make the mistake of thinking wedding cake is an eternal aphrodisiac. I don't care if you've been married 30 years if you neglect your woman she will sleep around.

redpilldude · 2014-06-05T16:52:45+00:00

Stories like this are really more the rule, rather than the exception.

Honestly, has any man ever had a positive reaction from his wife/gf when he shared a problem like molestation with her?

2014-06-05T17:03:09+00:00

What was the image in the OP? The snapshot site doesn't save it.

Cyralea · 2014-06-05T08:25:55+00:00

Isn't this the woman, and not women as a whole, that is dysfunctional? I doubt this is the general response from women towards their SO's if they've confessed to being molested.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-06-05T17:18:12+00:00

The man is the leader and captain of the relationship. With great power comes great responsibility. YOU CANNOT EVER DUMP NEGATIVE SHIT ON YOUR WOMAN.

Does the Captain of a ship complain about his feelz to his First Officer? Did Captain Picard ever complain about his bad day to Commander Reiker? No, and no.

highstats · 2014-06-05T05:55:12+00:00

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Title	Husband tries to open up to wife about past grief; "gross, keep it to yourself". Oh, she was cheating too
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Date	June 5, 2014 3:54 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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