Hey everyone,

I'm turning 26 before the year ends he will be 26 also. My boyfriend and I will have veen together for almost 4 years. Our biggest relationship issue is our lack of sex. He has a very high sex drive im sure he would like to have sex everyday. I however don't have a drive at all and its always been a struggle since the beginning of our relationship. We have been living together for over a year. Things have gotten worse and to the point that he gets extremely frustrated about it and starts to complain indirectly about other unrelated things bc of his sexual frustration. I know its easy to say that I should just try to have sex with him more often. Its really not that easy. I am not aroused at all and in the middle of it have this terrible feeling and want to start crying.

Anyways he has mentioned several times that he doesnt see himself in a relationship like this long term. We have never spoken of engagement seriously. I think this is the biggest reason why. I honestly think if it doesn't improve he won't really be able to see himself with me even though he says sex isn't everything in our relationship and he loves me. I just don't know what to do at this point. I honestly don't know why I never want to have sex either. I feel bad because I know he could easily have that missing piece with someone else if we were to break up also i feel like if it doesn't improve we are wasting our time and ultimately he will realize he needs to break it off.